How to make hair look good after washing?

Gentlemen, I seek answers. Whenever I wash my hair, it is dry, ridiculous and poofy for at least a day. I understand this is why women use conditioner, but I’ve tried that and I swear it doesn’t make a difference, or gets ruined when I dry my hair anyway.

My only solution I’ve found is to wear a hat the day of washing my hair. Luckily I’ve been at a job where that is acceptable. Usually day two or three, my hair looks good, but it’s a fine line between that and it needs a wash again. Am I the only guy with this problem? Am I missing something or doing something wrong? I know plenty of guys who don’t wear hats or products in their hair and it never looks like it’s just been washed, like mine does when it, has just been washed.