I (M21) have been pretty disappointed with Hinge. I’ve used it on and off for a few years, and while I’ve had some decent dates, most have turned into hookups or FWB situations—not what I’m looking for. A couple of friendships have come from it, but it hasn’t helped me find anything long-term.
So, as a uni student, how do you actually meet people you genuinely click with? My friend group’s great, but most are either in relationships or not people I’d want to date for the sake of the friendship. I’d love to meet people organically, but without coming across like I’m trying to hit on them.
While I’d like a long-term relationship, I’m always happy to make new friends— the process is pretty similar anyway. The challenge is meeting people outside my usual circles, especially since I’ll be staying in my uni city over summer while most friends head home, and I’d rather not spend it feeling isolated.
I’m not shy, but I also don’t want to intrude—like striking up a conversation when someone’s clearly deep in a book at the park. I’m into reading and photography, but I really just value people who are curious, kind, and excited to share their interests—people who light up talking about what they love. How would I best go about meeting people like that?
TLDR want some advice how to make friends or a partner who I click with past just the physical level.
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Welcome to adulthood. Making friends is different than childhood. It gets harder the older you get. I would look to join clubs or meet ups of some type. You could always get a summer job.
People meet friends and more at work all the time. Volunteering for something you believe in can be a good way to meet people. People that are willing to give their time without getting anything back are usually decent people.