Hi everyone, I (M27)have been in a relationship for the past year or so with my partner (F26). It’s a somewhat long distance relationship but we’ve been able to see each other often throughout the course of the relationship. Lately, however it’s been a real struggle for me to do anything both monetarily and mentally. I’m in a bit of a financial rut, slowly clawing my way out but it hasn’t been seeing any significant progress recently so it’s been hard to make time to see her. On the mental side, I’ve been dealing with a lot of family issues that has been impacting my mental health and my relationship to a certain degree. I just haven’t been happy at all lately, even when talking to my partner. I’ve been through a lot this past year with her in terms of stuff that has impacted me personally. However, I feel bad. I know she’s stuck with me through things but I just can’t help but feel like I’m dragging her down with me, like in the back of my head I know I’m depending on her to bring some light back into my day. On top of that, I recently found out that while I think she’s great, my family doesn’t and I’m a big family person, while I do not to let my family dictate my relationships this is obviously not fun to hear. I am very lost on how to move forward. I really want to be with her but I feel like with everything I got going on, it will be hard to maintain the relationship on my end. I just feel like I’m using her.
TLDR; been in a relationship for about a year now, she’s great. A lot of life issues have come up recently and I just don’t want to drag her down with me. She deserves more than that.