How to start over in a new place at 30? Feeling alone and lost

I’m about to move from my hometown, which I’ve never left, to a new state. After being very disillusioned with life and the future, I decided to look for new paths and I got a good job opportunity in another region of the country. I’m going to move soon.

I’m proud and still can’t believe I made it, but… I’m very scared. This city is bigger than mine in every aspect: size, population, job opportunities and cultural options, so I’ll be able to have a good life there. But how can I start over in a place from scratch, without knowing anyone, without a single friend? All the examples I have of people who moved like this either already had family there or were going with boyfriends/husbands.

In my hometown, I don’t have a large circle anymore. My brothers are very close and I love them very much, but they live in other cities, so I don’t see them much. Here I only have my mother, who is also married and has her own life. I have a complex life story due to depression and isolation. I have had few friends, many disappointments and difficulties in maintaining ties, but overall, I have had people with me throughout the phases of my life. Currently, the only really close friend I had simply stopped talking to me out of the blue, after 15 years of friendship. And no, in this case we had no previous problems, everything was great between us, but one day she just stopped responding to me without any explanation. I didn’t even get the chance to talk about the change.

I am very depressed because of this and it has fueled several feelings of fear and loneliness about life. I am fine being alone, busy with my life, but I have noticed that my days are completely taken up by my obligations and hobbies. I miss having a friend coming over for a snack, going out to a bar frequently to drink and talk. In short, having people with me.

With all this, I have been thinking about how much harder it will be in a new state, with people who have different accents than mine, at 30 years old, where everyone already knows that it is harder to have friends. I won’t even have my mother there. That’s also why I’m afraid of getting sick, dying and only having my body found weeks later.

I’m afraid that I’m heading towards a life of increasing loneliness and helplessness.

I’d like to hear stories from people who have gone through the same thing, a change like that. And also how they deal with this issue of loneliness in adult life, the difficulties in dealing with people, disappointments in friendships.