There’s always a difference between pure love and lust, in which that I despite of. I don’t want to experience lust but instead I wanna enjoy romantic pure love that I have right now, but everything I do it just feels like I’m lusting after the woman I love. We’re not together or whatever, it may be a crush or who knows but there is one feeling of lust inside me that turned my attachment for her into lust. I don’t wanna be driven by lust is primarily driven by physical attraction and desire, while love involves deeper feelings of care, respect, and commitment, often including an emotional connection. I really want that kind of love in the relationship that I have even though I have no girlfriend yet.
I struggle alot with lustful things, but I just know that I have to deprive of the mind inside me. Everytime I would just physical gratification. The type of love that we know and we crave is like a love that makes you want to lay on the couch watching tv with them and it doesn’t matter what you’re wearing and without any sexual desire. I don’t want this at all, I really care for this girl. I really do. I want to spend time with her, but all of a sudden the lustful feeling appeared and just wants to be intense and impulsive to be with her. This is not love. This is lust.
During these times, I actually wanna build a foundation and relationship with the woman I love, I don’t wanna be like a lustful men like I was before, and I wanna control my lust and change for her.
How do I change my feelings before it gets any worse?
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What is the longest you’ve been with someone?
Surround yourself with information that supports the lifestyle you want to live. If you want to be more in tune with ‘pure love’ then look for people that talk about it and share stories about it. The more you surround yourself with information and groups that focus on it, the more likely you can believe in it overtime.
Lust is a wildfire intense consuming and reckless but real love is a slow burning flame that stays lit even in the dark
If you want to love her right you must starve your impulses and feed your soul because only self control turns desire into devotion
Nothing wrong with lusting over her and if she doesn’t respond with the same, she doesn’t like you like that. Probably using you for something else and lieing to you. A healthy relationship is both partners wanting each other both physically and mentally