How to stop feeling competitive with my partner

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(27F) & my partner (32M) regularly play mini golf and other activities like this. Recently we played mini golf – he was smashing it – I wasn’t. I’m not sure if it was the fact im not drinking alcohol anymore and I haven’t just had an increase of my daily Zoloft – but it put me in such a bad mood. I know its “just a game” and it shouldnt have effected me as much as it did however it just made me feel so defeated. Maybe because I felt like I wasnt doing well & that in itself is hard for me to deal with sometimes. I don’t want him to not want to do these things with me again because of my mood change.

We had enjoyed a lovely breakfast prior to this & things were fine.

How do you deal with competitiveness with your partner? The rest of the relationship is pretty close to perfect.

TL-DR – Losing against my partner changes my mood dramatically.