Hi,
I found it really hard to talk about past with others without worrying it will affect how I’m perceived or be accepted. And it can be for any kind of relationship, as in platonic ones or more.
For context, back in 2022, I went on dating apps hoping to find something real. However, when I realized no one around me was actually interested in me, I ended up talking to anyone who gave me attention. Some of those conversations escalated, and I shared things I deeply regret. It didn’t go beyond online chats, nothing physical ever happened, but it still matters, and now it’s hard to not think what people think of me.
In 2023/2024, I went through a difficult phase of self-criticism, but I’ve been working hard to heal and improve my self-worth. I’ve been trying to move forward from the regret and self-doubt, and though it’s been a journey, I’m feeling better and more at peace with myself now, especially thanks to the act of repentance my religion has.
A few months ago, I started talking to a guy seriously, and when he asked about my past, I decided to be open and honest with him. A couple of weeks later, he ghosted me, and it made me fear that no one will ever truly accept me because of my past actions. I know I can’t change what happened, but I’m struggling with how to move forward without letting it hold me back or feeling ashamed of it.
As someone who is kinda religious, i am aware what I did goes against some of the religious core values and principles. I’m worried that any guy who cares about those values too will never accept me.
So even if I healed inside, its very hard to open up or go beyond what people think, especially religious one.
So, how do you talk about your past in a relationship without feeling like it will ruin everything? Should I keep certain things private, or is there a way to share them openly and still be accepted?
I’d really appreciate any advice or guidance on how to handle this.