my boyfriend and i have been together for 7 months and everything is fine. this is my first relationship ever and this is his first one in a few years. things have been going great and we get along fine. we have a very similar sense of humor, but recently he’s been making this one joke that’s just been really unfunny. i should clarify that the joke isn’t offensive– it isnt harmful to me or anyone else, it’s just a regular joke about this one character from a videogame we’re both into. i could laugh it off at first, then i just smiled and nodded whenever he made/referenced it. but now it’s just getting pretty annoying. he keeps making it and i think it’s because he thinks i still find it funny. i feel like an asshole and i dont know whether i should just keep putting up with it since its harmless or try telling him that im getting kinda tired of it. we’re both on the autism spectrum and normally im really blunt, but i really like him and i can tell this is just coming from a place of affection, so i dont want to be a jerk.
TL;DR: boyfriend keeps making really tired joke and i dont know if i should tell him the truth, and if i should i dont know how to phrase it without sounding like an ass.
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“Hey, I love you, but that joke is kinda starting to annoy me. I’d appreciate if you stopped making it.”
Follow up by initiating intimacy or showing love in his preferred love language to show that you’re not upset.
(Groan) We need a new joke, love.
Time to retire that one!
You gotta get some new material (followed by kiss)
This isn’t a heart to heart conversation for me – if you think his feelings will be hurt maybe be more gentle but if it’s no big deal than treat it as such. Maybe try light comments like above and get serious if he still doesn’t stop.
This isn’t a big serious conversation, or it doesn’t need to be. The next time he says it, grab his face, kiss him quickly, and playfully say “hon, it was funny the first time you told it. You can let it go now.” and go straight back to what you were doing. Rinse and repeat.