Hey guys. I’m turning 25 in a couple months. Been working the past 2 years in the same city (major city) I went to college in. Lived in 4 good friends and had a great time.
Now I’m turning 25 and it feels like the fun excitement of behind young and 20-something is going. Friends moving with SOs and such.
The future scares me. Not messing around with friends on weeknights, staying in on Fridays, meeting new people. And it’s spun me into a full scale quarter life crisis.
From those on the other side of 30. How valid is this? When do those young years die out? Will my brain start to enjoy the slow life more?
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> How valid is this? When do those young years die out? Will my brain start to enjoy the slow life more?
Pretty valid
Probably will always feel nostalgia
You’ll enjoy the slow life once you become tired enough to hate the fast life
That being said, I’ve always had an abnormally healthy body. So it happened faster to me than others. But in general, the main driver of age is just the degree of fatigue and body pain lol
You’ll never get your college years back. Now you understand why everyone says enjoy it while it lasts. Just give it time, you’ll be ok. Life moves on and so will you
25 is young. The thing about 25 is despite how young you are you are past college age (traditional) and you are more official adult status at 25. Probably why you feel this way.
My quarter life crisis was awful. I was moving from being a student to.. an adult I guess. I had a very hard time adapting
Someday you will look back at being 25 and you won’t believe how young and cool you were. Try to enjoy it
25 is only a crisis if you’re actively and desperately searching for a crisis.
At 25 or 30, are you saying you should be looking to enjoy “the slow life”? Doesn’t work that way buddy. Work hard now, kick back and enjoy later. It’s much, much harder and virtually impossible to do it the other way around.
I’m 54 and never had a quarter, third, or half-life crisis yet.
I’ve also failed/succeeded in my life ever having calmed down enough to worry “is this all there is.” There hasn’t been an is that lasted long enough for that.
It’s not a crisis.
The 33.333333 continuing crises is far worse IMO.
College is supposed to end, brother.
You don’t have to give up friends because they’re moving in with their SOs unless you refuse to give up living like you never graduated college.
I’ve said in multiple threads, if I could tell 25 year old me one thing, it would be to go party/drink/buy dumb shit less, lean into the hobbies I can do sober and free of charge, and start growing into adulthood beyond college.
It took me until right before thirty to really understand that this adjustment was both necessary and didn’t mean all the fun in my life was gone. If you can get it through your head at 25 you’re probably ahead of your peers.
Not, life has just started.
For me, I didn’t move out until my mid 20’s, so life got way more interesting and fun (except for the fraternity days which were pretty fun and wild).
IMO, the real killer for people is wasting their time on screen time. Social media, video games, porn, Netflix, sports, online etc.
You may not have that issue, but you can bet at least a few of your friends will drop off IRL because of screen time addiction. Back in the day, like 20-30 years ago, we didn’t have as much online entertainment so you’d have to go out in the world and like… do shit.
You’re reaching peak maturity, the switch flips at 25… what you thought was cool you’ll complain about, you’ll think the you get crowd are an inch of idiots… you’re growing up and just mature now.
Didn’t happen for me. You make the life you want. I got married at 23 and our daughter was born when I was 25. No regrets.
I’m 40 and wish I could go back to how slow life was at 25. 😂 There’s ups and downs to every phase, some friends will move on and you’ll make new ones. If you think you’re going to be miserable you probably will be, so be careful with your thoughts. The mind is amazingly powerful.
Quarter life? You got big expectations do ya?
It’s all a matter of attitude. You shouldn’t let your life be dictated to you, do what you feel like doing, whether you’re 20 or 40.
New chapter for sure. Embrace it don’t run. Regardless you could die tomorrow. Carpe Diem.