I find on reddit, there is a strong anti-men sentiment. Everything is misogyny, men are narcissists etc. Do you find this is the same in real life? If so, do you have examples?
How widespread is the anti-men sentiment in the real world (off of reddit)?
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It depends where you go I guess. For the average man it’s not common at all. At most it’s just a disconnect here and there, like things could be better socially when it comes to interactions between men and women. That’s about it. I’d say some women are more open about things that men would get flack for.
I think there’s an anti-everyone sentiment right now
As a man, I can tell you around my parts it’s honestly not that crazy. Most people still have men do this and women do that type of vibe and even when women and men do work/do the same thing they’re is a mutual respect for each other. Of course this is just what I witness and maybe I’m missing it entirely lol.
I honestly think it’s quite reversed irl atm. I’ve met far more men blatantly willing to debase women.
No. I get along fine with my wife, female family members and female coworkers
Haven’t encountered it much in real life, though I run in generally ‘enlightened’ circles – my community of D&D nerds are extremely socially conscious and inclusive.
No. My son is a man. A good man. If so many women believe that all men are bad, then maybe we should all look at ourselves as well.
Somewhat less widespread than the “Waah, poor men” sentiment
Not that large
I mean, people are just pointing out just how misogynistic the world really is and you’re sitting there going don’t call me out on my misogyny. I don’t think you’re making the point you’re trying to make.
I think you have the wrong idea Op. People come to
reddit because they can talk about thing anonymously
so of course both men and woman are going to talk
about issues they are having with the opposite sex.
In the real world people are not anonymous so they
aren’t going to discuses things with strangers like
they do on reddit. So Reddit and the real world
are two entirely different things. Woman have real
reason to discuss issues with men on Reddit especially
taken into consideration what’s going on currently
in the USA . So maybe it’s not anti-men sentiment but a reflection
of what’s going on in the real world. And for the record I am a man.
It’s mostly an online thing, they do exist outside of course but they’re extremely loud online which makes it seem way bigger. When Tumblr collapsed, all of the people from it left and spread their toxic ideologies all over the Internet and here we are now.
I don’t think it’s that widespread. To be honest, in real life, I notice a lot more men expressing “women shouldn’t have careers, they should only be helpmates to their husbands, single women are failures…,etc.” They don’t always phrase quite like that, but that’s the attitude.
Even guys like that aren’t all that common, but more common than man-hating women. This is just my own experience though.
Depends on where you live. But on average, I’d imagine it’s minimal or nonexistent for most men
That’s not common on my Reddit, so you might want to reevaluate your bubble on here, and same for IRL. The majority of the time that I see this presented is usually a guy complaining about the prevalence-I rarely ever see it even as a topic of discussion irl.
Reddit isn’t real. Real people are living their life
Only one time that I ever have someone try that anti man with me. One of my chick friends got a new girlfriend, she was a waking stereotype, looked like Marty Mcfly. Tried to tell me how I was lucky getting the job I have and the house I had. Not taking in the 70 hour work weeks I did to get to where I am. Then she assumed I didn’t have a degree, my friend cut her off saying I had 2 bachelor’s and a masters. Then my other friend said how I paid for it myself and asked if she could say the same, she couldn’t. I think my friends stood up for me because they saw I was just trying to be nice, was asking her what she did for work and that type of stuff. She took offense to that as I was talking down to her or trying to one up her. Never understood that train of thought.
No, not very widespread. Also not an anti-woman sentiment in the world, aside from maybe the Middle East.
I’ve had misandrist coworkers in at least 3 different states.
Well have/had 2 female and 1 trans-female friends rant or mention to me how much they hate men and that they all suck, so I think its a pretty real thing.
My wife is a feminist and her friends are too… but in saying that, not even is most feminists anti-men, they are just pro-women. I find if you treat everyone nice and politely. Treat them with respect, then people will treat you right too.
It’s not particularly bad imo. There is some but I don’t particularly experience it.
Not all.
It’s not really a problem with how much is it spread.
The problem is how much it is internalized.
There’s a billboard in my city with written on it (it’s 20 something years now) “Stop violence against women”.
And while I approve the message of stopping violence, why we must keep it going for men?
misandry is much more socially acceptable than misogyny.
I also don’t think that misandry is anywhere near as toxic as misogyny.
I will be at group gathering, and there will be women saying bad things about men opening. Whether or not they are true is irrelevant.
If I said the same things about women at these gatherings. I would probably be kicked out.
That being said, I think men are a lot more awful than women in a lot of cases. And men also come from a position of power and physical prowess.
at the end of the day, who cares what sentiments people carry on with? Surround yourselves with positive people and let the others be miserable.
Social media attracts frustrated and angry people… so.
I don’t feel I experience this that often in real life.
It’s more with specific people, sometimes somebody may have had a bad experiences with men and then over time they seem to hold a grudge with men overall. When I find out that seems to be the case I just keep my distance
It’s all over Reddit and Instagram, but in real life I haven’t seen much of it. But I also don’t talk to many women in life because of everything I see on social media so
Real people touch grass, it really doesn’t exist a ton outside of reddit.
Don’t really see much of an anti-man sentiment. I see much more anti-women. But that’s probably because I play video games.
Starts at childbirth where we have less bodily autonomy protections than girls. Girls have laws protecting them from all forms of NON THERAPEUTIC genital cutting while boys and intersex children have none which violates the Equal Protection Clause/14th amendment. No politician cares it seems because the victim is male.
They’ll protect girls from religious and cultural cutting but not boys.
If it weren’t for the internet and television I would be under the impression that everyone is getting along fairly well.
well, guys recently lost out to a bear for a random encounter, so – not great bob.
Pretty strong. I’ve been accused when I went to the church in need because I was going through a hard time
Well women never really talk to me at all unless they have to for work so there’s definitely something there.
The real world at times is much more forgiving than Reddit. Of course if you suck as a person YMMV.
What I’ve seen is anti-human sentiment. Including from me. My patience for other people’s idiocy has declined. A lot. I’m much less likely to entertain babbling idiots than I was a few years ago. If what you’re saying doesn’t add value, or even worse, it detracts value, then shut the fuck up.
It’s huge on social media and in cities or really any left leaning area.
If anything I’m getting sexually harassed at work more now than in years past. These women don’t hate men. They hate CERTAIN men, usually exes.
Probably not as bad as on reddit, cause reddit is effectively the trash can of the world where garbage people come to be garbage to other people, but id wager it’s still pretty bad. The problem the people who hate on reddit, Facebook, or wherever are often times just as hateful in thev real world, they just hide it better. I mean my work is a perfect example of that. They literally have a movement called “women in power” simply because they think is harder for women to get positions of leadership…..despite half the buildings leadership being women. It’s so bad that men have to work harder just to be taken seriously because they’ve gone so far liberal with the “women are oppressed” ideology that they’ve basically started punishing men for being men.
Absolutely. For proof, look up emilywking on YouTube. She’s not anti man, but most of her videos are responses to women being anti men. The things that are said, done, or wanted by the women in these videos are bamboozling
I’ve never seen it. Rarely see it online, too, except for dudes whining about it.
I disagree with the premise of “on Reddit there is a strong anti-men sentiment”. Suffice to say, I do not find it present in real life, either.
It is the opposite at r/CelebratingMen !!!! Love that thread!
I don’t receive this personally. I get along with all the women in my life
Lmao what subs are you on? Sounds like some victim complex.
Not in the working world, but western universities seem to have a bit of misandry. There is a reason university students are female majority now in North America.
I don’t see any “anti men” sentiment but that could reflect my internet habits as the internet amplifies our confirmation bias. I feel like we could use some of this. Sometimes people say something is misogynist because it is.
It’s less extreme in the real world but it’s still there.
The difficulty here is that the greatest representation isn’t outstanding cases of negative treatment, it is an overall trend of lacking positive treatment.
The data that women on dating apps prefer the top 1-2% of men, and only register the top 10% as even existing, tells us many things. Because of the ‘Halo effect’ within human psychology, this perception of appearance is used to pre-determine things such as our personality, intelligence, competence, and other personal traits / qualities.
I experience these impacts in real life as a guy that isn’t in the top 10%. Only rarely am I treated downright terribly, but at the same time I am not perceived or treated as a human being. Among women there is a constant, yet not spoken or outright, disdain for my existence. Only within social circles where women have enough time to learn my personality and qualities do I become a human being to them, where I have enough time to disprove their negative pre-conceptions about who I am based on my average appearance.
Yes, I go outside. Yes, I have friends. Yes, I have been on dates before. No, I do not ignore hygiene. Que the labels and gaslighting about my life experience.
Every now and then you’ll hear women say “men suck”. You’ll often times hear women complain about their husbands in real life. You have to keep in mind though that people aren’t gonna be as hateful in the real world as they are online.
With that being said, the hatred of men doesn’t necessarily manifest itself as women being mean to men. It could just be the dehumanization of men as a whole. A lot of American women view the only value men bring is their money. They’ll treat men like ATM machines and go on dates just for free food. On top of that, if she’s a single mother they’ll even try to order food for their children and then get upset at a guy if he doesn’t want to pay for all that.
Another way the hatred women have for men is their double standards. In the United States men are not allowed to have preferences or standards. You tell an American woman that you want a traditional wife that cooks and cleans she’ll look at you like you are Hitler. But it’s fine for them to have as many outlandish standards for men. Then they get support from other women that say “Don’t settle sis”. Like no he’s not a bad guy just because he can’t take you to Dubai and buy you Louis Vuitton.
Furthermore, if you are a man and you open up or talk about your feelings in front of a woman. A misandrist will use it against you or make you seem like you aren’t a real man for showing emotion. While also using the stupid quote of “men used to go to war” which is so dumb within itself. Men still go to war I mean did they forget about Russia-Ukraine and Israel- Gaza.
So yes the anti men sentiment exists in the real world. But it’s not necessarily women saying “I hate men” it’s more so how they treat you and the double standards they put on you. The biggest issue being the dehumanization of men and treating them like ATM machines instead of human beings that have feelings.