Is this a sign he’s not interested anymore
I’m gonna be that person asking a specific to every individual type of question because I’m feeling anxious and just need to vent it somewhere**
Been seeing this guy for a long time. We spent yesterday evening together and I called in sick to work to spending the morning with him.
He was very intimate with me, I don’t wanna say less horny but like I assumed this was very much a hook up kinda night and it had been awhileeee for us like 2 months.
But then he was tucking me in, giving forehead kisses, holding my hand and cradling me a lot and looking after me as it was cold. We spent the next morning together going out for breakfast and a nice walk by the seaside.
This is in no way a complaint I love how he is with me.
But am I deeping this sense of lack of horniness?
Like if you were dating someone, Had not seen them in two months then finally did- would you be extra horny? Or am I over simplifying it?
Bc I’m reading into how he didn’t seem as horny as times in the past, even after a few weeks of seemingly no sex …I guess unless he’s fucking other ppl.
- context this is a casual thing that’s ending soon bc of outside factors
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I do the same thing it’s just nervousness even when you’re in bed together he’s probably just freaking out trying not to make you uncomfortable even if he knows it’s unreasonable don’t worry about it and be up front with him I’d say
maybe he just wants to focus on being close to you. someone else might take it the other way like “he hasn’t seen me in two months and all he wants is physical intimacy instead of catching up or having a real conversation?”… try to bring it up with him
Aww you’re nice. A friend of mine months ago had his girl be mad at him for not showing more interest in intimacy. Whereas he lived off the experience of someone he knew where she was mad for the opposite reason it being so long since last they met and all he apparently wanted according to her was coitus.
Just give hints and voice desires to your partner, there are so many minefields.
If it’s ending soon, what difference does it make?
What problem are we trying to solve?
Is it because you need to feel desired, and he didn’t desire you enough?
Madonna vs whore
Which one do you want to be?
Maybe he likes you a lot and doesn’t want to commit to physical intimacy, which is often tied towards feelings for you, as he knows it’s going to end, and is saving himself the pain.
Or maybe you just expect to much because his “horniness” didn’t align with yours. Did you make it clear to him that’s what you wanted ? Or maybe he’s just didn’t feel like it.
>Like if you were dating someone, Had not seen them in two months then finally did- would you be extra horny?
No. I would be happy to see them and show my care and closeness to them. If sex happened than great, but if I’m dating someone it’s because I like them. Not the sex they provide.
Contrary to popular belief, people can go without sex for a time and still function.
>Or am I over simplifying it? Bc I’m reading into how he didn’t seem as horny as times in the past, even after a few weeks of seemingly no sex …I guess unless he’s fucking other ppl.
Plenty of people fuck like rabbits and still cheat. If you think he’s having sex with other people because he didn’t immediately jump your bones and instead treated you well, than please leave this man alone. By all accounts he treated you very tenderly and showed you a lot of care. He deserves better than having that met with accusations of him being a cheater.
Ask him