I am 28 years old. I am average in build, looks, maybe a little bit more in education, average in salary, dressing, car etc. Not a single woman was interested in talking to me or even spending time around me until now so I am sure it will continue in the next 12 years after which I will be in the old bachelor territory (no escape land).
Lets say I need to accept women want to sleep with someone else (doesn’t matter why) . What would be the 5 step plan to accept and live with that ide
Edit I have hobbies and interests outside work
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Imagine being a woman. It’s that simple.
Do you want to sleep with every woman alive? No? There’s your explanation.
Why do the other people matter? Of course women are attracted to other people. Every single one of them.
You just need to focus on what they are doing which you are missing rather than trying to police their feelings
I told someone that we need shouldn’t put people on pedestals and what people want to do they’ll do. All we can do is control how we react to the shit. Don’t give up on finding someone. But we can’t make people be present with us in our lives. But you have to make yourself present because you only have one go at this
If you think your life is over after 40, just wait… Most guys I know would disagree.
There’s so little you know about life at your age. Those extra years are an educational experience you won’t want to miss
If your life as a single guy is going this way, then you should consider changing your approach, because clearly what you are doing now, isn’t working.
How this relates to your question about accepting women wanting to sleep with someone else baffles me.
Dating for men in their 20s sucks. 30s is a level playing field for both sexes. Mid range me was doing quite well dating wise in my forties. 62 now and met my wife at 45 – still happily married.
Not sure I understand the question. Do you want to marry a virgin?
It does matter why if you want an honest answer. Women usually want to sleep with other men because of the orgasm gap, at least in my circles. They don’t want to settle down with the guy that can’t even spend the time to make sure she’s happy and satisfied with the experience. I also have a little bit of skepticism about how many women actually can’t orgasm from intercourse (they say 80% cannot, from what I’m told), I disagree it’s that high, but that women are more willing to accept what works and never push for change.
I’m sure there are plenty of sixes and sevens that would sleep with you, but you’re probably hung up on nines and tens. Your standards are too high.
You need to circulate more IRL and get away from the dating apps and dating websites.
the problem a lot of kids have is they seem fixated on women and sleeping with them as the only thing that gives life meaning and I don’t know why. Like do you not have anything else to live for or enjoy?
I mean man, why not just go learn how to ride a motorcycle, or follow a favorite band in concert? Every guy who says this just is hell bent on women but they aren’t going to fix your life or make it heaven. Just focus on having fun without them
Don’t discount your 40s. I dated more in my 40s than I did before that combined.
You’ve asked this question many times in various ways in several subreddits. Not sure what else you’re looking for.
You say you’re educated probably a bit more than usual but your post makes you come across as emotionally stunted or extremely immature. What even is “no escape land?”
If you’re not in a mutually exclusive relationship your concern is moot.
I wouldn’t accept it, because it’s not true and the more you think that way they more woman see it and want nothing to do with you. The number one thing women want is confidence followed by someone that can be fun to talk to and be around. My guess is you’re shy and boring.
What a bizarre way to think. Are you upset that not every woman would choose you in particular to sleep with?
This is not something most men stress about. This is weird. You just accept it as a fact of life, because this is a fact of life for literally every single human who has ever been on planet Earth.
No one owes you a sexual relationship. Look at your own behavior instead of the whole opposite gender and you will find the issue, which seems to be right now that you think “ I’m a male I deserve sex from women”.
Are you a “perfect gentleman”like Elliot Rodger? Are you preparing a 140-page manifesto of grievances against women, like Elliot? Do you spend a lot of time resenting the women who don’t want to have sex with you? That’s how Elliot spent his time, and it did not end well for him or all the people he killed.
I suggest: go out of your way to make some good friends. Be a kind, upstanding, generous guy. When your friends see your worth and admire your best qualities, you can be sure that they will have sisters, coworkers, friends, and daughters, and they’ll want to tell them about you. They’ll want their female friends and family to know about their kind, upstanding, generous friend.
Don’t bother women who are just trying to go about their business, moving from point A to point B. Focus your energy on making yourself a better person, more well informed, better read, a more accomplished home cook, more physically fit, more cultured. Keep working on yourself. Host BBQs and perhaps small dinner parties.
If you have a lot of value to bring to the table, share it with people, and you’ll attract interest.
What is this self pitying incel bullshit. At 28 you’ve decided that no woman is ever going to want to have sex with you? Keep going this way and you’ll make it true. Plus the only attributes you mention are your looks, your money, your car, and your educational attainment. Makes it sound like you think women are shallow and only care about your appearance and your status. gtfo
I mean, people have different tastes…there’s lots of women who don’t want to sleep with you, and lots that probably would if they got to know you. You just have to put yourself out there.
Have you tried developing a desirable personality? You know – being a fully rounded person, with interests and experiences aside from crying about women not giving you the sex you think you deserve?
I challenge the premise of your question. No, you don’t accept it. You fix it. You figure out how to get what you want.
You say you think the next twelve years will be the same. You have a crystal ball? If so, please lend it to me so I can adjust my stock portfolio accordingly. You don’t know what the future holds. The next twelve years will only be the same if you let them.
Shake things up. Do something different. Go to the gym. Work out. Put on some weight and muscle. Get some clothes that flatter you. Get a haircut that flatters you. Put yourself in social situations. Volunteer. Join a hiking club or a dancing group or something. Expand your social network. Use the apps.
Don’t work on accepting something you are fundamentally unhappy about. Change it.
Go to therapy and run this premise by a trained professional, pretty sure they’ll find it distorted and can help you unpack why.
What’s this 5-step shit? Just ask a woman you do t know why she wouldn’t want to fuck you and you’ll know what you need to work on. Reddit isnt getting you laid bud.
What the hell is wrong with you? You keep posting variations on a shitty theme