How would you describe your first relationship ?

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How would you describe your first relationship ?

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  1. dm-me-really Avatar

    Basically friendship

  2. scotthia Avatar

    Extremely Toxic.

  3. Mikenread Avatar

    Largely Imaginary

  4. AntiProgramming Avatar

    Immature. Neither party knew what they’re doing

  5. radioguy23 Avatar

    Pretty good tbh.

    We were young and still learning about ourselves. It didn’t end in a great way, but I don’t regret any of it.

    I hope she’s doing well.

  6. Hefty-Walrus-3210 Avatar

    Roller Coaster or Bi-Polar Express.

  7. DarthAuron87 Avatar

    Too short. Should have never happened. We might still be friends today.

  8. zukio_zukio_zukio Avatar

    We started as f buddies. Giving backshots to her daily. Anal was the game and Sarah was her name

  9. eeeeeeeeEeeEEeeeE6 Avatar

    You ever see the meme gif of that car flying off the side of the cliff. Yeah pretty much that.

  10. midlanecannon Avatar

    Racist, toxic, fun

  11. Otherwise_Sun_25 Avatar

    I was groomed by a 20 year old when I was 16 into dating him. Dated him until I turned 20. He didn’t even last a full semester of me being in college before cheating and the only reason he had told me he did was because his friends were threatening to out him to me. Ended that relationship real quick and transferred colleges and had to deal with 2 years of harassment from him as well as I’m going self-eject myself from this world because I can’t be with you. 11 years later, I can in fact confirm he did not self-eject and ironically is dating and has a kid with someone that is 10 years younger than him.

  12. poemdaysareover Avatar

    Silly. Cool guy. He came out as gay shortly after we mutually broke up. I came out three years later.

    I haven’t thought about him in years! We were fifteen. Here I am another fifteen years later, beat to a pulp by constant heartbreak.

  13. MardawgNC Avatar

    Like two oceans crashing together, obsessive, reckless, oblivious of how it appeared to anyone looking. Dangerously, completely in love. Like nothing else existed.

  14. Orion_2kTC Avatar

    Good. High schoolers, we were each other’s firsts in damn near everything. I ended it because she was getting mixed up in drugs. She got clean, I still talk to her to this day.

  15. HumbleDig5073 Avatar

    She broke up with me cause i asked her for the homework answers

  16. killboy420 Avatar

    A comedy of errors

  17. SaveFerrisBrother Avatar

    First real one was pretty physical, no real intellectual connection, and “love” based on pheromones and oxytocin release. We were NOT actually compatible, but it was a fun time, and I don’t regret it.

  18. CD_Marshall Avatar

    Naive, immature & necessary.

  19. Dizzy_Magazine684 Avatar

    Innocent, immature, and unforgettable

  20. MerylSquirrel Avatar

    Durable.

    17 years later we’re married and going strong.

  21. Hazel-Beom Avatar

    Immature , I think we coulda made it work if we were both older

  22. bolo_for_gourds Avatar

    Best and then worst emotional experiences of my life

  23. aurora_ethereallight Avatar

    My first first (he was my first love)… too short, lovely and the end of it still baffles me to this day.

  24. Wolfacekilla Avatar

    🤔hilarious lmao

  25. Turbulent_Fox_8962 Avatar

    Reckless, wild, uninhibited, absolutely toxic but that chemistry has yet to be matched!

  26. -_-Orange Avatar
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  28. drunky_crowette Avatar

    We were going to the same pre-school. We shared our snacks and toys and I’d draw things from the stories he told (because he told good stories but insisted I was a better artist) and we were working on obtaining super powers so we could fight crime and earn an awesome mansion to live in (given to us by the grateful city, tax-free of course).

    We had to go to different schools for kindergarten and didn’t see each other again until one day in the 8th grade after our mom’s bumped into each other somewhere and I learned he had grown into a massive tool.

  29. maximum116837 Avatar

    Just ended a few months ago. I loved him but there was definitely a lot of things that I didn’t like about the relationship that I just ignored because I was so love blind. No regrets though because it helped me grow and also the breakup is helping me better understand the world as well.

  30. Just1Message4daVoid Avatar

    With both hands 🤌🤌 (she was Italian)

  31. ewwdav1d Avatar

    two headstrong personalities that didnt want to give up on their goals.

  32. Civil_Existentialist Avatar

    Too short unfortunately. I loved her to bits and imagine my future with her. She dumped me out of nowhere. Fell into deep depression and had to pause uni for a year.

  33. Certain-Cook2667 Avatar

    Awful. I had a few gfs kind of not really exclusive. I had a gf at 12ish nd she dumped me before a party and was kissing some guy in the basement dance area kind of showing off. I didn’t know making out with a girl at school was cheating though so I was like meh ok. Fair is fair. I had no idea about any of it. I let her go quickly for some reason. I still picture her trying so hard, and like I just wanted to tell her I’m ok with all of it

  34. pleasedontnerfthis Avatar

    Immature in all aspects and generally harmful despite being a good learning experience for us both.

  35. FragrantBit787 Avatar

    Too ugly for a relationship

  36. RegularVariety263 Avatar

    Started out okay, got worse, but eventually we learned and it got so much better…still in my first one and I hope that it’s also my last…

  37. majdoori Avatar

    Sexless and too emotional.

  38. 322955469 Avatar

    Hopefully not too far in the future.

  39. Edolin89 Avatar

    It was the classic example of childhood romance.

    We were 18 at the time. It was magical. Short, but magical 🙂

    I remember it fondly.

  40. OneOldBear Avatar

    It had lots of sex in it and then it ended. But that was a long, long time ago. True love came later in life.

  41. StoneCold42 Avatar

    Draining. I was not prepared for the emotional baggage she unloaded shortly after our start. I was also not prepared to fully open up myself. Some lessons take a while to fully learn.

  42. Handsomeuser42 Avatar

    Loved her but I was never enough

  43. Kit469 Avatar

    It was nice, may have been short lived but I loved the time I had with him. We’re still friends, ended on a sort of rocky note, then later became friends once again after high school when we both moved on. I’m really happy for him, I hope he’s truly doing good

  44. ionV4n0m Avatar

    full of lies.

  45. Kind-Storm-1848 Avatar

    300 wala recharge 😂

  46. spookygmc Avatar

    Awesome , Until it wasn’t!

  47. SlimeBull69 Avatar

    Long time ago. In a far far away place 50 years

  48. Natural-Treat-139 Avatar

    Should have ended sooner. Nothing went horribly wrong, just went about six months too long.

  49. Even_Suspect_2674 Avatar

    More interested in getting physical. We had nothing in common😂

  50. Shaunaaah Avatar

    Toxic but educational.

  51. Majestic_Remote7874 Avatar

    Still love my right hand as much as I did on day 1.

  52. LadyMacBeth1603 Avatar

    One sided.
    Traumatizing.
    Totally rotten, no good, bad bad bad stuff.

  53. PlanImpressive5980 Avatar

    Pretty great. We both tried hard, but I was young and feared all the issues I heard about relationships. Problems might have come up, but they hadn’t yet. Now if I see any issues coming up that people could just not do, I’m done. Not dealing with that “did you look at that girl in the pink shirt?”

  54. scorpionmonkey8 Avatar

    Young dumb and full of cum

  55. maphya_01 Avatar

    Immature.
    Neither of us realised it was just infatuation

  56. CopperBoomBitches Avatar

    Whirlwind, rebound (i was the rebound) nice while it lasted, and I learned a great lesson.

  57. BartholomewThePoet Avatar

    It was like stumbling upon a hidden sunlit clearing after a long walk in the woods – that first love. Every shared glance was a spark, every quiet conversation a melody that still echoes softly. Even now, the memory of its warmth feels like a gentle hand on my heart, a reminder of a beauty so pure and bright it forever colored the way I see the world.

  58. Just_Call_Me_Pix Avatar

    A good memory ^^

  59. UnfairDurian1455 Avatar

    Toxic codependency. There was near zero accountability on his end, not just for how his actions made me feel, but he actually wouldn’t take accountability for his actions in some situations by outright denying it ever happened.

  60. Sarge1387 Avatar

    Amazing for what it was…but painful(High-school dating). During it was great, my first real experience sharing those feelings and things with someone. And it was oddly healthy for 99% of it… The ending was painful AF and taught me how to persevere, and how to re-build.

    It was my first great learning experience in life, really. The things I learned about myself even that young (17,18), and how to treat someone you care about…helped me become the man I am today at 38 and treat my wife the way a husband should treat his wife.

  61. Ready-Accountant-502 Avatar

    Terrible.

    She wasn’t trying at all, she was also a hoe, and she started getting fat so i lost attraction.

  62. PsychologicalFinish Avatar

    Nice Start, horrific end (6 years)

  63. ViennaViking15 Avatar

    difficult. Two different cultures, her father didnt like me at all. She cheated on me after 2 years telling me that a woman needs ‘more than just one man’

  64. Jdfz99 Avatar

    A learning experience.

  65. GridlockRose Avatar

    Educational.

    High school girlfriend, first times for everything, she was a year ahead of me so I graduated and joined her in college, got engaged, she cheated, I called off the engagement and dumped her immediately.

    It had been going on for months right under my nose.

    I have been married and divorced since, but learning that level of betrayal so young definitely affected my decision making when it comes to trusting others with my emotional vulnerability.

  66. Gofor-It1030 Avatar
  67. Various-Language-391 Avatar

    A learning experience

  68. Vegetable_Mammoth_34 Avatar

    Stable and healthy. We were 4/5. He could do break dancing, could run pretty fast, didn’t have buggers out of his nose – most of the time, and was nonchalant about playing with girls.

    The full package.

    Now that i think about it we haven’t broken up since then…

  69. zkrooky Avatar

    Wish it never happened

  70. wolfraisedbybabies Avatar

    Very good, young and in love. Lasted many years.

  71. Skeptic_lemon Avatar

    Messed up. It wasn’t either of our faults, but a person can only be so fucked up mentally before no amount of understanding and intelligence, both emotional and logical, from both parties, can make a stable and healthy relationship. We both tried. We were both miserable, for various reasons. Mine was the stress, her’s was life. My brain tried to cope in a way that was not acceptable. It didn’t end well.

  72. Training_Turnip_9070 Avatar

    Relationship? What’s that food?

  73. Highlander0001 Avatar

    Loving, exciting, fun, volotile, heartbreaking. It just lasted a couple months but she was beautiful. Haven’t met anyone like her since. I was 18 she was 17.Many years ago. Still think about her some. Learned a lot.

  74. MyLifeIsAStroke Avatar

    It was morally grey, unstable, and painful in somber way.

  75. Soggy-Editor8874 Avatar

    At his juncture; I wouldn’t😖

  76. Fairysalo Avatar

    Very rare, toxic and immature

  77. No_Independence2831 Avatar

    Short and kind of boring

  78. ValuePuzzleheaded244 Avatar

    Only had sex with my husband. Did not plan on that!Still married 🤦‍♀️ he gave me cervical orgasms and we lived happily ever after.

  79. Grouchy_Way_4286 Avatar

    short and painful

  80. itryiamutkarsh Avatar

    “Hai andher ujaale
    Aur raushan andhera
    Kal khuda tha jo,
    Hai aaj kaatil mera.”

    Hai ishq yeh tera, ya saza koi meri
    Dil tujhko jo diya, di jaan bhi meri

    Phir kyun bikhar gaya
    Jo main tujhpe mar gaya
    Yeh kya hashar hua
    Tanha jo reh gaya

    Main yaar tha tera
    Inkaar kab hua
    Dil haar ke main yeh
    Lachaar kab hua

    Lachaar main hua
    Bekaar main hua
    Mere dil mein tu basa
    Hathiyaar kab hua?

    Yeh kya hua
    Kaisi hain yeh bediyaan
    Karke tujh ko main riha
    Ban kyun kaidi phir gaya?

    Main jashn hoon tera, tu saza bani meri
    Ab jeena hi chhod doon, le maut bhi meri

    Main tuhjpe waar doon,
    sab kuch ujaad doon
    Manzil nakaar doon,
    Kisko yeh pyaar doon

    Main khud khushi karoon
    Ya khud hi par hasoon
    Marke bhi main tujhe
    Aabad hi karoon

    Aabad main karoon
    Barbaad main rahoon?
    Tujhe yaar maan kar
    Tera vaar bas sahoon……

  81. fetlabetta Avatar

    Stupid, young and dumb

  82. Complete_Primary_676 Avatar

    Exciting kase tago. Hahahha

  83. Search_destroy Avatar

    I won’t count middle school because that wasn’t anything. I suppose my first “ relationship relationship”with a kiss and the whole ordeal happened freshman year. It was a guy I’d interacted with only a little the previous year. We had English and gym class together and immediately on the first day of school we were cracking each other up. We talk and joke for about a week and he asks for my number. In my head thank goodness I was developing a crush on him because he took me agreeing to exchange numbers as him asking me out. We’re both awkward as all get out, so the social cues weren’t really all the way there. I realized this when we had a call that day after school and he finished it up by saying “okay I love you, I’ll see you soon” and the relationship happened. I rolled with it because I liked him. I can’t imagine what would’ve happened if I didn’t share the same feelings at the time.

    I have nothing against the dude now, we were 14 and stupid. It’s whatever. The relationship only lasted about 2 and half months or so. He blocked me about a month after we broke up because, for whatever reason, a friend and I were on a FaceTime call with him. Dude outta fucking nowhere puts his bare ass to the camera and puts a book light in it. We were clowning on him hard for that (as 14 year olds do) and honestly, I regret it. If I could go back I’d chill out. Yes it was funny and abrupt but I wish we didn’t pick on him so harshly for that. He’s kept me blocked ever since so you know it’s real. I also would prank call him periodically in the years following for shits and giggles. I don’t feel totally bad because he was rude to me. That’s ultimately why I ended the relationship. Oh, and he’d always try to pressure me to have sex with him, in school of all places.

  84. RMSCereal Avatar

    Nonexistent.

  85. Lofi4632 Avatar

    It wasn’t a relationship…She was a future muslim, I was a rather stupid and straightforward guy then, we didn’t suit each other, and I was inexperienced in life therefore I ruined all …To be honest, I don’t regret that it all turned out so cause many years passed, I gained life experience, became more reasonable, and met a girl who became for me an angel and a lovely lump of happiness🥺

  86. Kirbyr98 Avatar

    Lots of adolescent hormones wildly exaggerating the first experience of love.

    In a way, it was pure and amazing. It was also naive and immature.

    It’s a fond memory, but not something I want to repeat, and definitely not something I long for.

  87. izwald88 Avatar

    Toxic to the extreme. Heck, the day she told me she was in love with me, she had cheated on me that morning and felt guilty. From the very beginning, she broke the relationship and for some reason I kept on for years.

    To this day, she remains the only person to have ever given me a black eye.

  88. MrGreenStar Avatar

    Disaster. I was such a jerk.

  89. bigluckmoney Avatar

    Sadly it was my best one. He was caring and gave it his all. But we were just children. So yeah

  90. Interesting-Car4699 Avatar

    My first relationship was a rollercoaster of awkward moments, sweet discoveries, and learning curves. It wasn’t perfect, but it taught me a lot about communication, boundaries, and what I really want from a partnership. Definitely a memorable chapter!

  91. I_-AM-ARNAV Avatar

    I’m here for the answers, never been in one

  92. matyuna_ Avatar

    I’m in my first relationship, and I’ve been the happiest ever since, almost 2 years now🥰🥰

  93. OhNoKoJo Avatar

    Non-existent

  94. Pristine_Station1988 Avatar

    Challenging but I was young but it showed me I’m capable of been loyal and I’m capable of alot of things

  95. zerbey Avatar

    It was sweet and we had a fun Summer, but looking back I was very immature both emotionally and mentally and missed a lot of cues from her that I needed to grow up a little.

  96. uggghhhggghhh Avatar

    I was in way deeper than she was. Next few relationships went the other way until I found my wife!

  97. A97S_ Avatar
  98. 72scott72 Avatar

    Great for a middle schooler (7th grade). We had the same taste in music, clothes and she was super cute. 30+ years later and we still keep in contact today.

  99. Born-Review1333 Avatar

    A traumatic , strong , toxic learning experience

  100. awakami Avatar

    Wonderful & learning experience

  101. imthrownaway93 Avatar

    Manipulation. He lied to be the whole time we were together. I was 14, he was 16. He told me he was a virgin, which wasn’t true. He told me he was adopted. Wasn’t true. Told me he was from Finland. Also wasn’t true. He manipulated me just so he could sleep with me. I was sneaking out a night to see him, he lived a few streets over. I got in huge trouble bc obviously I got caught.

  102. crisiscreator33645 Avatar

    really dry while texting, and we never really went out

  103. NighthunterDK Avatar

    Developing. I was 15, she was 26. No I wasn’t groomed. No we didn’t do sexual stuff. I definitely had issues. So did she, but it was consensual, and without a doubt matured me as a person. We were both broken people that happened to meet at a point where both of us needed each other. Without going into too much of depth, we broke it off because some physical distance was made, and we both had grown over the course of out relationship, and we’re at a different place.

    I still consider her one of my best friends, if not my best friend. I see her daughter as my own, or at the very least as a niece. She is engaged, and they both have a child each, similar in age. Both wonderful and lovely girls. The relationship is healthy, and she gets the life and love she deserves. I’m like an uncle the family now.

    For me, I’m still single, but we wouldn’t have worked anything out had we stayed together. No romantic feelings between us, and that’s completely fine. I still love her to this day, and if she ever needs my help, I’m throwing everything in hand to be there for her and her family

  104. Trollselektor Avatar

    Fireworks. Spectacular, for a brief moment. We were just two kids who were in love. I thought I’d be with her forever. I still talk to her sometimes.

  105. mr_lab_rat Avatar

    Too early to judge. Started 35 years ago, still going, will let you know in a few years …

  106. LastGrowth2874 Avatar

    Ended my first relationship yesterday that lasted 2 years and 4 months. It was fun I loved him but he got tired of the fighting and fixing and I got tired of the treatment so I ended it. It was very fun loved every part of it

  107. ConsortiumCzar Avatar

    Been chasing that trauma bond my whole life. 🤣😂

  108. Wrong-Stretch8980 Avatar

    He threw my favorite stick into the neighbors yard over a fence. That’s when I knew he wasn’t for me

  109. Eckkbert Avatar

    Devastating

  110. Fire_Z1 Avatar

    Young and in love.

  111. Alt-health Avatar

    I was painfully shy …

  112. Specter-Chaos Avatar

    When I get one I’ll let you know

  113. Innervizion Avatar

    She was nice, but I was (and still somewhat) avoidant about affection and love. I should have apologized ngl

  114. Trauzzinator Avatar

    Passionate, but young and immature

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  116. Battlehero19 Avatar

    Incredibly confusing

  117. theservman Avatar

    Brief and ill advised.

  118. Practical-Key-8384 Avatar

    abusive and toxic, thanks god i got out of there (he had to cheat on me for me to realize hehe)

  119. Wooden-Glove-2384 Avatar

    Don’t stick your dick in crazy

    Get your own personal shit under control before anything else

    When it’s over, it’s over

    Yes, sometimes real men DO leave

  120. S7Saske Avatar

    The worst traumatic experience that has shaped who I became as a person, changed me for better and for worse would not be who I am today if it didn’t happen

  121. thelasthater409 Avatar

    Regret, we had so much but circumstances just piled up and made it so we wouldn’t work out

  122. Kaalveythur Avatar

    Heavenly. I keep praying for it, but wont get it before I die.

  123. Mjerten Avatar

    I learned a lot. About what I don’t want…

  124. Sharp_Sniper Avatar

    a shitload of wrong choices

  125. grat_is_not_nice Avatar

    We got on like a house on fire – >!screaming, loss of personal possessions, and scars.!<

  126. IH8BART Avatar

    Spongy and bruised

  127. Opening-Chapter-9086 Avatar

    A horny farce. I still liked my crush, but my friend wanted me to hang out with her nanny. Pretending I liked the nanny while lying to myself that I wasn’t still into my crush was not a good idea. She was cute, so I told myself I liked her. She kept fucking lots of guys while pretending she was a good girlfriend that didn’t do stuff with guys. I should have realized when she kissed me, but I told myself it was fine… until it wasn’t.

  128. Accomplished_Way8873 Avatar

    I thought I found “the one” when in reality I was Tuesday to him.

  129. 1984well Avatar

    Toxic. Damaging.

  130. Sup3rB1rd Avatar

    First “relationship” (maybe held hands, BF/GF in middle school): still friends today.
    First actual GF: don’t speak. We had a bad break up after dating two years in high school/college, but honestly shouldn’t have dated and we’re both so inexperienced that it was eventually going to lead to a break up either way.

  131. Positive_Cut7540 Avatar

    Fireworks and rollercoasters.

  132. TheEpicRacerTR Avatar

    New emotions unlocked

  133. PKMNTrainerEevs Avatar

    Immaturity, mainly on my end. We dated for a few months and well I didn’t take the break up well and went on a stupid tirade on Facebook going woe is me.
    Looking back my mental health was a wreck and I shouldn’t have dated my childhood friend. I lost her as a friend and lost a few friends along with it.

  134. User1296173 Avatar

    Toxic as all fuck

  135. Blvck-Aura Avatar

    Shitty and cringe