How would you feel if your partner went on a week-long vacation and barely stayed in touch? They say they miss you but only call when they need something, right before falling asleep, or while distracted—like playing video games during the call. Whenever I travel for work or vacations, I make it a priority to set aside at least 20–30 minutes to really connect and catch up.
So how would that make you feel, and should I keep making that effort if their pattern is so different, or does it make more sense to adjust and match their level of communication instead?
TLDR;My partner barely checks in while on vacation—only brief, distracted calls. I always carve out 20–30 minutes to connect when I travel. Should I keep making that effort or match their level of communication?
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Address the problem directly. Don’t be passive aggressive and just mirror their behavior because that doesn’t solve the issue. Let him know how the behavior makes you feel and what you’d like in the future.
Ya I’d break up immediately. That’s too much anxiety and stress for anyone.
Uh why do you need them to keep checking in? I would be fine with this but I hate talking on the phone. Are you worried they will get hurt? Cheat? They are probably just busy on vacation and they aren’t in their normal routine so it’s easy to forget to check in. Don’t go looking for something to be upset about.
Is this a normal occurrence or just a one time thing? How is he in general? Is this normal behavior for him? The best you can do is have a chat with him about how it makes you feel. Communication is key
This is too broad to give any sort of advice on.
guys are weird. i’m not gonna tell you what to do but i will tell you what happened to me. long established friendship that developed into a light relationship. he went camping for 4 days with a few of “the guys” with whom i’d also had long established relationships with. i was usually “one of the guys” but not this time. he didn’t tell me they were going, didn’t call me while they were gone, and didn’t tell me when he got back. i only found out he did this when i showed up to hang out with the guys who didn’t go. so i say, “hey. did y’all have fun?” he says, “what? you’re not mad?” i said, “no, why should i be. you were just camping with the guys.” well the whole thing exploded. he was hurt because i wasn’t jealous. screaming match ensued in the driveway with me saying,”you’re such a girl!” and he said, “well you’re such a boy!” and i left and it was over. everyone laughed and we all stayed friends for many more years. true story.