I was born looking like any other girl, but at puberty I didn’t get periods. Tests showed I have no uterus, XY chromosomes, and an internal pair of balls. It’s a condition known as Complete Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome.
I’m not looking to meet anyone on here, but I’m curious as whether, hypothetically, this would be a deal breaker for you? If so, is it because I can’t have children or another reason?
No judgement.
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I’d probably need to know more. If you have any external male genitals, that would be a dealbreaker.
I wouldn’t mind since I have no child wish, but I guess it would be different for everyone.
Children are a big deal for me so it would be a no, but if you’re this up front and honest about it I think there would be plenty of guys open to a relationship.
It wouldn’t bother me at all. It seems weird to me that someone would be so into “chromosomal purity” that they would care.
I’m pansexual so as long as we vibe im not bothered. I mean physical attraction’s still a factor but the way someone presents themself and what genitals they have are distinct to me in that im gonna be cool with whatever I find when they take their pants off if i found them attractive enough to wanna take their pants off to begin with, you know?
I think you should be upfront with people about it, especially if they’re dating to settle down or have kids. It would be dealbreaker for me, regardless of your physical appearance.
I couldn’t seriously date somebody that I can’t have kids with.
If I wouldnt have child wish, I’d say yes and dont mind at all.
But since I do want own children, that would be a no from me, dawg
Does intercourse still work “like normal”? If yes I would think that men who do not want children would to a large portion be cool with that.
If I weren’t looking to start a family, I wouldn’t mind either.
As long as you had a vagina to penetrate I would be fine. I’m aware of homologues.
If you look like a regular girl and have all the right parts then I don’t see a problem. Not being able to have kids would be a bonus for me, since I don’t really want any.
Would probably come down to how compatible our personalities are, like with any other woman.
I’d be fine with it.
I don’t think my happiness relies on my having kids or on me not having kids, but if I was in a relationship and they wanted kids, adoption would be the most appealing option for me; so I wouldn’t mind you not being able to have kids. Not only do I think people over blow the importance of similar DNA to a creepy degree; pregnancy is obviously dangerous for both the the mother and the baby. I don’t get people wanted to put their wife through that. Adoption is also obviously taking care of a human that needs help. There is also like not the risk of blindly adopting a baby with a crippling disability and even if a genetic illness happens later on; at least there isn’t the guilt of you giving them that illness because you didn’t give them their genes.
If it was before I had kids, then the infertility would have been a dealbreaker. But after having kids, after divorce, I wouldn’t necessarily be opposed. It depends on lots of other factors.
I know plenty of dudes that wouldn’t mind if the chemistry was right and the attraction was there.
Personally, I’d have to research the condition and gain a deeper understanding. I’d go about the matter delicately upon learning it, but I think I’d fixate too much on this hypothetical partner’s DNA and internal genitalia for me to be a partner worth their time.
That’s kinda cool. I’ve never heard of this syndrome before, but after skimming the Wikipedia page and becoming an expert on the topic, it sounds like you were “supposed” to be male, but your body just didn’t feel like binding to androgens. It makes me think of aliens disguising themselves as humans.
In either case, I don’t think it matters too much as long as you outwardly look female.
As long as you don’t have any external male organs, not being able to have kids would be a plus for me.
I think men that don’t want kids would have no issues if everything works and looks normal , but it’s something you should be upfront about early on to make sure.
I would not care. I have no child wish so it would be a plus I guess?
Wouldn’t matter to me. I’m down with whatever. My son is already grown and I don’t want any more but I can see where that’s a real deal breaker for others.
I’d be indifferent
You will be able to find a man to love you, don’t worry. Just be upfront and honest.
If a man can look at you and see beauty, understandable and connect to your brain. We will fall in love with the shell regardless, if it’s perfect or not.
Have the strength to keep looking until you find that guy that clicks for you. Use it as a way to ward off evil. Anyone that has a problem with it isn’t worth your time.
I want children, it’s something that should be said and known on the first date.
So unfortunately nothing against you personally, but I would have to pass.
I’m sure many people wouldn’t mind all too much.
There are plenty of people out there who enjoy the taste of the wine and don’t look too close at the label.
Sorry, I hope question are on – how does this “internal balls” work, like are they just there (not visible) without any runftion?
If you look like and other woman with the only difference being that you can’t have kids, I don’t think most men would have an issue. Obviously for these with a family wish it’s a deal breaker but otherwise I don’t see an issue.
Respect to you though if you are always this upfront about it!
I’m child free and pansexual (or probably Omni? I don’t know, too many categories nowadays I’ve always just used queer for myself. But either way, a persons sex and/or gender doesn’t play a major factor into my attraction to them). So I would have no issue with it. It is something I would want to know about though.
I wouldn’t be into it, and I think that’s ok. I also think there are probably a very large group of people who would be ok with it. Everyone has their preferences and those don’t mean they think down on someone who isn’t their preference.
If I found out my wife had that condition – looking female with all female assets and just not being able to get kids, I would not mind. I was born with HBS and she also accepted me like this.
I would probably not want to be in a relationship with her.
Depends but I dont think it matters to me sure I will be curious but not in a deal breaking sense but just human curiosity but yeah I would want her to be open to adoption down in the future.
Not for me as I want children but a girl coming up to me and saying “I have a pair of balls inside of me” would be an interesting conversation.
I don’t think it would matter for people who don’t want children. So probably the first question would be if they ever want children or not, followed up by why you can’t.
Depends.
I’m already over 40, married with kids.
That might have been a dealbreaker back in the days before I had children.
But if there had been real feelings and a solid relationship, I wouldn’t have had a problem with adoption or any other alternative.
But nowadays, you’d pretty much be on equal footing with any other woman.
I prefer direct communication: no secrets, no lies.
Feeling deceived is a big reason for me to walk away from any relationship.
I would not care the slightest, if anything I would find it interesting. I am bisexual though.
By the sounds of it, it’s like you had a hysterectomy like a lot of women have to have, It’s no different. If you have female genitalia and some breasts, however small, a lot of men would be fine with that. Lots of women can’t conceive for many reasons, you have one of those reasons. As soon as you start to develop a romantic relationship, I know I would like to know in case I really want to have children. To me, that’s fair. If I’m ok with it, then our relationship just got a whole lot more trustworthy and closer. That’s my opinion.
You look like a woman. You also see yourself as a woman and are attracted to men right? You can be intimate like normal correct? I wouldn’t care about the extra chromosome. I would care that the questions were answered correctly, for the kind of person I’m attracted to. I’m attracted to women so if you see yourself as a man that would be a problem for me. I don’t want kids so I couldn’t care less if the uterus was swapped out at the factory. I don’t mind in principal. As long as there’s no dysphoria or desire to transition I wouldn’t care.
Hey, I’m gay so I’m not really the target of your question but I wouldn’t be opposed to dating an intersex person if I otherwise found them attractive and interesting.
I’m child-free and remaining that way, so it makes no difference to me
It wouldn’t bother me dating an intersex woman, however, it might for some people. The thing is you’re dammed either way tell someone too soon they could use it against you, or put them off or tell someone too late then they could get mad for lack of transparency.
Fertility could be an issue with some guys, or some guys might love it if you cant conceive (obviously adoption or fostering could offer a solution if it was a need)
Just wondering is there dating sites out there that let you be you without stigma.
Since I want to have biological children of my own one day, it wouldn’t work out for me personally. Nothing against anyone, just a personal preference.
I think it would be fine depending on what our goals would be going forward and what you want from life. If you present as a woman and have all the parts then as a casual relationship it probably wouldn’t be an issue with me personally, but if kids where a question for a more serious relationship I don’t think it’d be fair to start a relationship with you as I wouldn’t want you to feel bad about something that isn’t your fault and are unable to control.
I hope that’s an okay answer for you? That’s how I’d assess the situation
Not my cup of tea, sorry.