This is precisely why no one will ever have those kinds of pictures of me.
The consent granted during a relationship lasts only as long as the relationship lasts. Anyone who does not respect that is not worth my trust or my time.
It’s absolutely gross to me if someone keeps intimate photos or videos of their partner after the relationship ended unless they actively asked for consent to do so after the relationship ended and were granted it
I would find it incredibly gross, distasteful, inappropriate, and violating if someone kept and ‘used’ intimate images of me for their personal time after the relationship had ended.
If I found out that a current or potential partner was keeping and using imagery of their ex in that way, they would no longer be a potential or a partner for me.
My ex has such pics but I don’t really care if he uses them. It makes no difference to my life in any way as I don’t want any contact with that person. They can see pixels on a screen and imagine stuff but they know the things I would find immoral/degrading to fantasise about because I didn’t want those things to be a part of our relationship when we were in one. So they’d probably only think of things we used to do… Even then, why would he? He could just hookup with someone else and experience the real thing.
I don’t care but on the ex’s part I find it weird, distasteful, and a sign of immaturity. Certainly would want to avoid any man who isn’t mature enough to delete photos and videos of exes.
I wouldn’t be happy. I know some of my exes still have pictures of us when we were together which is shocking to me. I delete pics of my ex after a break up. I know some of my exes still have my number which is weird too and I don’t have theirs
Not even my husband gets NSFW pictures or videos of me. He gets the real deal, and has never once tried pressuring me into providing them. When we were younger, he’d maybe get a boob pic with no face, but now he can walk up to me in our home and ask.
I would feel extremely uncomfortable with an ex having anything like that of me. Depending on the circumstances of the breakup, you never know how people will react. I also agree with the comments about that consent immediately ending after a breakup. Anyone who keeps NSFW media of their ex is weird, and I’ll stand on that.
Eh 🤷🏾♂️ I mean, I sent them to you…. They’re yours. And also, if you say you did delete them, what am I going to do? Check? If you send photos or videos, I think this is a kind of reality you just need to be cool with idk
yes, i think it’s a violation of consent, and it should generally be treated as such when the person doesn’t give explicit consent to use it. i know there’s guys out there that have photos of me and use them, and they will forever be dead to me. especially since i was a child.
We split up and I told him to delete everything. He loses any and all access to me, and I to him. Whether he listened or not is questionable. He never did listen.
I assume if I send someone such images there’s a good chance they’ll still have them if we break up, even if just because they haven’t bothered clearing out their pics (also many people have pics automatically backing up somewhere, so even if they remove it from their device they likely still have them even if they’re not looking at them). While I’d prefer them not to keep them, it doesn’t bother me if they have them as long as they’re not sharing them.
Honestly, me and my ex got back together and he told me he deleted my pictures from before we had broken up. It made me feel reassured he respected my privacy
My ex sent himself a pic of me that he took on my phone. It’s the only spicy pic I’ve taken in my life. When we broke up, I told him to delete it. He said he did.
He never got over me, so a year after I asked him again if he deleted it, he confessed he kept it on his computer.
I told him to delete it and he said he would.
One day someone (still don’t know who) hacked my email and emailed my ex (posing as me) to send a pic of myself. My ex, thinking it was me, sent the hacker my naked pic.
When I couldn’t log into my email I felt my gut sink and the same day got a text from him asking if I’ve received the email. He said he just “did what I asked” and I was like did WHAT? And he told me he got an email from me asking him to send the pic of me to myself.
Never got access to that email again since the hacker changed the password. Who knows where that pic is now.
So frustrating that a pic that was taken by someone without my consent (told him to immediately delete it), sent to themselves without my permission and then kept against my will is out there.
Totally fine with it. At the end of the day if I sent them/ filmed them I gave them consent to do what they want with them so long as they don’t share them with others it is what it is today, tomorrow, 10 years time, whatever
I hooked up with someone a few times and he took a picture consensually. After we stopped seeing each other I thought he would just delete it like any normal human, but no. YEARS later he decides to send me the photo asking if we can hook up again. I told him to delete it but I honestly don’t think he did.
Tbh I don’t care that much. My ex was an introvert and didn’t have much dating experience, my other ex has a partner and I imagine has done a clear out by now considering it’s been a few years. If they have some stored away, I don’t overly care. I’m sure my phone has a few pics from years ago of exes naked that have managed to hide in my files/folders.
There isn’t much you can do. Once a photo or vid has been taken and then you split, it’s in their hands to do whatever they like with it. If you don’t like that idea, don’t send NSFW vids or pics, or let them be taken of you.
There are several men I’ve dated with videos of us having sex and pics of me in various states of nudity in their phones. It honestly doesn’t bother me. I consented to the pics and videos, knowing it could end with him having it forever. As long as they’re not posted online, I honestly don’t care.
I assume they do. Although when sent, we had an agreement to delete pics immediately after but oh well. I dont reallt care. My face was never in them and if he’s still looking at them, then its more his problem than mine. If I ever found out he shared them, that would be different
The right thing to do when a relationship ends is to delete any intimate photos or videos. I would be extremely uncomfortable if I knew an ex had kept them or was using them to masturbate.
My ex did, and yes, I do consider it very creepy and gross to keep those. Mine was extra gross because he regularly showed them to other people even up to several years after I left him.
I’m almost entirely certain that one particular ex has pictures and if he does, he definitely uses them.
I don’t really feel anything about it. There’s nothing I can do about it, I’m unlikely to see him ever again, I already know he’s an ass and a liar. If he wants to sit at home enjoying a version of me that doesn’t exist (pictures are from several years ago), it has no bearing on my current life.
I don’t care if they keep it or use nudes. I gave it to them cuz I trusted them and even if we break up, if they keep it to themselves I have 0 issue with it. I wouldn’t share nudes if you if I felt you’d share it with others, even if we broke up.
Would just be an extra way for him to make sure he knows what he lost haha
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Honestly, nah, not really, better they have it and never get over me🤣
I assume that they do, and it doesn’t bother me as long as they’re (obviously) keeping them to themselves.
If we’re not together anymore he doesn’t need to have access to my body in any way.
Consent is gone the moment the connection/commitment is gone.
I think it is abhorrent to do so.
This is precisely why no one will ever have those kinds of pictures of me.
The consent granted during a relationship lasts only as long as the relationship lasts. Anyone who does not respect that is not worth my trust or my time.
You know I deleted everything too much pain to see them again. But my ex kept them 🙃
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Keeping them if he simply forgot that they were somewhere in his folders, not ideal but can happen.
Keeping them on purpose and ‘using’ them is a violation and next level disgusting. Like wtf.
I used to care a lot, but thinking they cant get over my body also helped me get over it lol
I don’t care. Nothing I’ve ever sent could be identified as me cuz I’m not a moron.
My ex doesn’t “use” them, but he did show them to other people… when we were still together. Creep
My ex has such pics but I don’t really care if he uses them. It makes no difference to my life in any way as I don’t want any contact with that person. They can see pixels on a screen and imagine stuff but they know the things I would find immoral/degrading to fantasise about because I didn’t want those things to be a part of our relationship when we were in one. So they’d probably only think of things we used to do… Even then, why would he? He could just hookup with someone else and experience the real thing.
I wouldn’t mind. I know several people already got my nudes, so one more or less doesn’t really matter anyway
I don’t care but on the ex’s part I find it weird, distasteful, and a sign of immaturity. Certainly would want to avoid any man who isn’t mature enough to delete photos and videos of exes.
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I wouldn’t be happy. I know some of my exes still have pictures of us when we were together which is shocking to me. I delete pics of my ex after a break up. I know some of my exes still have my number which is weird too and I don’t have theirs
Not even my husband gets NSFW pictures or videos of me. He gets the real deal, and has never once tried pressuring me into providing them. When we were younger, he’d maybe get a boob pic with no face, but now he can walk up to me in our home and ask.
I would feel extremely uncomfortable with an ex having anything like that of me. Depending on the circumstances of the breakup, you never know how people will react. I also agree with the comments about that consent immediately ending after a breakup. Anyone who keeps NSFW media of their ex is weird, and I’ll stand on that.
When me and my ex broke up I deleted her nudes from my phone. Not only out of respect for her but to help me move on with
i would be paranoid as hell. get rid of all those 😭
If they keep it to themself it’s OK in my opinion since I see it as a gift for them.
That being said. If I wasn’t OK with them having my nudes or videos. Just don’t do it In the first place if you can’t trust them with it
Also if they share it in any way. Not OK
Eh 🤷🏾♂️ I mean, I sent them to you…. They’re yours. And also, if you say you did delete them, what am I going to do? Check? If you send photos or videos, I think this is a kind of reality you just need to be cool with idk
If we’re not together anymore, he shouldn’t be keeping or using those. My body, my choice. Consent doesn’t last forever.
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yes, i think it’s a violation of consent, and it should generally be treated as such when the person doesn’t give explicit consent to use it. i know there’s guys out there that have photos of me and use them, and they will forever be dead to me. especially since i was a child.
I’d find that very creepy, frankly. Especially if they’re dating someone else.
We split up and I told him to delete everything. He loses any and all access to me, and I to him. Whether he listened or not is questionable. He never did listen.
I’d deleted my FWBs pics and vids but i have no idea if she still has mine lol. We are not in each others lifes no more
Noooooooo. I hate it. A huge reason to not share said photos.
A guy I went on like 2 dates with, never hooked up with, asked for nudes like 6 months later. So very Ick.
Hard to control electronic copies
Absolutely not. It’s just respectful honestly.
I regret sharing explicit pics for this reason. I consider it on me that they have them for posterity.
I don’t care, because I wouldn’t know.
Don’t take them and you won’t have to worry about them
I assume if I send someone such images there’s a good chance they’ll still have them if we break up, even if just because they haven’t bothered clearing out their pics (also many people have pics automatically backing up somewhere, so even if they remove it from their device they likely still have them even if they’re not looking at them). While I’d prefer them not to keep them, it doesn’t bother me if they have them as long as they’re not sharing them.
Honestly, me and my ex got back together and he told me he deleted my pictures from before we had broken up. It made me feel reassured he respected my privacy
I think it’s gross and any suggestive or sexual pictures should be deleted upon a breakup.
I don’t care as long as they’re not sharing them with anyone. Honestly I’d find it flattering if I knew they still enjoyed them
This is a non-zero part of why I would never send them and encourage other women to do the same.
As long as it stays on their HDD and only theirs, I don’t really care.
Absolutely not. Deleting pics and videos (and double checking) is a part of my breakup checklist
Make new ones and say get rid of the old stuff now you have new ones.
Otherwise, they are mostly what’s the word… keepsakes. The reason is individual to each person.
I actually recently cleaned a bunch of old stuff out by deleting it. Besides I don’t need old stuff.
My ex sent himself a pic of me that he took on my phone. It’s the only spicy pic I’ve taken in my life. When we broke up, I told him to delete it. He said he did.
He never got over me, so a year after I asked him again if he deleted it, he confessed he kept it on his computer.
I told him to delete it and he said he would.
One day someone (still don’t know who) hacked my email and emailed my ex (posing as me) to send a pic of myself. My ex, thinking it was me, sent the hacker my naked pic.
When I couldn’t log into my email I felt my gut sink and the same day got a text from him asking if I’ve received the email. He said he just “did what I asked” and I was like did WHAT? And he told me he got an email from me asking him to send the pic of me to myself.
Never got access to that email again since the hacker changed the password. Who knows where that pic is now.
So frustrating that a pic that was taken by someone without my consent (told him to immediately delete it), sent to themselves without my permission and then kept against my will is out there.
Not something I think about but as long as they aren’t spreading them around I can’t do much about it.
Totally fine with it. At the end of the day if I sent them/ filmed them I gave them consent to do what they want with them so long as they don’t share them with others it is what it is today, tomorrow, 10 years time, whatever
If they an ex, they can do whateva da hail they want as long as they stay 100 ft away from me…for any and all reasons.
I don’t really care, they can keep em
Just don’t share em 😛
I assume that they do and I really don’t care. As long as they’re not posting it somewhere.
I’d be extremely uncomfortable if I was in that position. Creeped out too.
I hooked up with someone a few times and he took a picture consensually. After we stopped seeing each other I thought he would just delete it like any normal human, but no. YEARS later he decides to send me the photo asking if we can hook up again. I told him to delete it but I honestly don’t think he did.
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Tbh I don’t care that much. My ex was an introvert and didn’t have much dating experience, my other ex has a partner and I imagine has done a clear out by now considering it’s been a few years. If they have some stored away, I don’t overly care. I’m sure my phone has a few pics from years ago of exes naked that have managed to hide in my files/folders.
I gave them those photos. The photos are theirs to keep. Sharing is where I draw the line.
No no no no no this is abuse at best specially as you seem to know about it and I feel like there’s a backstory here
I never kept them and I’d appreciate the same courtesy
There isn’t much you can do. Once a photo or vid has been taken and then you split, it’s in their hands to do whatever they like with it. If you don’t like that idea, don’t send NSFW vids or pics, or let them be taken of you.
I always deleted them and I would appreciate them doing the same.
just post them on pornhub for revenge 🥰
There are several men I’ve dated with videos of us having sex and pics of me in various states of nudity in their phones. It honestly doesn’t bother me. I consented to the pics and videos, knowing it could end with him having it forever. As long as they’re not posted online, I honestly don’t care.
I assume they do. Although when sent, we had an agreement to delete pics immediately after but oh well. I dont reallt care. My face was never in them and if he’s still looking at them, then its more his problem than mine. If I ever found out he shared them, that would be different
What exactly are you going to do to stop him? If he obtained the photos legally and willingly, that’s his property and has all rights.
You can ask him/her to get rid of them but hes in no way obligated to do so
The right thing to do when a relationship ends is to delete any intimate photos or videos. I would be extremely uncomfortable if I knew an ex had kept them or was using them to masturbate.
Could not care less. I don’t care who has them. I don’t even reallt care who sees them to be honest. Happy to stay ignorant to it.
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if its of me? hell no. hate that.
My ex did, and yes, I do consider it very creepy and gross to keep those. Mine was extra gross because he regularly showed them to other people even up to several years after I left him.
I’m almost entirely certain that one particular ex has pictures and if he does, he definitely uses them.
I don’t really feel anything about it. There’s nothing I can do about it, I’m unlikely to see him ever again, I already know he’s an ass and a liar. If he wants to sit at home enjoying a version of me that doesn’t exist (pictures are from several years ago), it has no bearing on my current life.
I dont care but its weird bc I was a minor and now we’re adults :/
I don’t care if they keep it or use nudes. I gave it to them cuz I trusted them and even if we break up, if they keep it to themselves I have 0 issue with it. I wouldn’t share nudes if you if I felt you’d share it with others, even if we broke up.
Would just be an extra way for him to make sure he knows what he lost haha