And bought them to give to you! Would you be insanely creeped out, or flattered? Somewhere in between? Be brutally honest here.
How would you feel if a girl showed up to the first date with you with flowers in hand?
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And bought them to give to you! Would you be insanely creeped out, or flattered? Somewhere in between? Be brutally honest here.
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It depends on if it’s expensive lame roses or affordable and beautiful lilies.
Not to be ungrateful, but I’d wonder where I was going to put them as I wandered about looking like a bridesmaid on a first date.
I’d think it was totally awesome, my missus occasionally buys me plants (succulents mostly, it’s the only thing I don’t instakill I have whatever the opposite of a green thumb is – seriously, I’d kill Japanese Knotweed if I tried to care for it) – I name them, that’s how I have huey dewey and louie on the shelf in my office (louie is technically louie the 2nd because I killed the first one somehow).
Someone thought enough of you to put the effort into buying/fetching you a small gift they’d thought you’d like – what’s the downside I’m missing here?
Shocked
Flattered, but shields up : red alert.
If everything else in the date checked out good, I would feel very appreciated and valued and she would have a special level of my attention for a very long time.
Neither my wife or I like flowers, so it would be really weird of she bought some to give to me.
I would be delighted!
Flattered. No notes.
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I know i should be happy, but i would probably be on guard and start looking for the camera filming the prank because that’s the only logical explanation
I’d be genuinely touched, appreciative… and slightly careful.
Honestly, getting flowers as a guy hits different. I always appreciate it, because men tend to get overlooked on small gifts of affection.
Also, with what /u/crimsonavenger77 said, I disagree. I would 100% be holding those flowers the entire date lol.
Why tho? Is there an inside joke or something else about flowers? I think it sends a message but it’s kinda off putting I guess.. nothing wrong with bringing flowers, just not on the first date. Which should be a casual and low pressure thing.
I would be flattered! (and lowkey excited that I may be going on a date with a sweet trans woman)
i think it depends on how y’all know each other before the date. given i usually either know the person already usually or we have talked online a bit before meeting up, i wouldnt find it weird. i like flowers.
Id probably tell her to hold it, politely it through the date and never call her back. Obviously our values would be too incredibly misaligned to go forward in any capacity.
what the heck am I gonna do with flowers?
I might hang onto them for the date but they are not going in a vase after
No, thanks. Where am I supposed to keep them? Just hold them awkwardly for the entire date? Or put them in a chair while we are having drinks? Throw them at the backseat of my car? I’m not even sure if I own a vase, I have to check in my garrage if someone gifted me one…
Personally I’d prefer a small potted plant, or a succulent – those are cool. Maybe a cactus – thorny, prickly, manly and hard to erradicate like me 😎
I think it’s a bit much for a first date. I’m not a flowers kinda guy, so as a gift, it’s not a great fit for me. For me, it would be something for a later date, once she’s gotten to know me a bit better.
On the flip side, I’d like the fact that she brought the flowers, that her personality was confident and outgoing like that, that she would feel comfortable enough in herself to just do it?
Sound serious, she either wants a kidney or wedding ring. I’ll make it work, I have 2 kidneys after all
The sentiment would be nice, but given the irregularity of it, I’d be waiting for the other shoe to drop
Weirded out but grateful for the warning. If she thinks I’m a flowers guy, then this isn’t going to be a love connection.
i would think “wow thats weird & pointless. what a waste of money” out loud id probably just say “thank you”
I would be looking for a candid camera, to be honest. But there is nothing bad with it.
If first date is flowers what’s second date
What am I meant to do with them during the first date?
It wouldn’t make sense to me.
I assume first dates are happening in public and I don’t want to disrespect the gesture, but I have no idea what to do with the flowers.
Surprised, then trying to figure out which room they match with. Depending on how the date went they’d either be preserved as long as possible or find their way to the trash afterwards.
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I would be surprised. If out and about somewhere, I would worry what to do with them / where to put them.
I would feel bonita.
It’s flattering but I’m personally not the biggest fan of flowers. Nice sentiment/gesture, but ultimately wouldn’t be as appreciated as something like a snack.
So probably a cordial thanks and accept it. But internally wonder wtf I’m supposed to do with flowers now
Absolutely flattered. At worst, I might feel a bit self-conscious if I had not brought her anything. I would certainly be paying for her meal, though I prefer to do this anyway.
To be clear, this is not a necessary or expected thing. It is a kind and thoughtful thing. No, it is not a “red flag;” it’s a green flag. No, “figuring out where to put them” is not a problem, any more than it is for a woman who receives flowers.
This is just lovely, A-class behavior.
I’d feel really tickled.
Annoyed because I have horrendous allergies and I’d be a mucus-dripping mess.
Depends on the flowers.
It’s a nice gesture but honestly, don’t unless you know he would like them. Most guys don’t really appreciate flowers. I don’t even think I owned a vase before my wife moved in. Then they wilt and you have to throw them out after a few days, it just seems like a waste of money. Try food instead. The quickest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. (Actually the quickest way is to touch his dick, but food is a close second.)
Not at all interested in flowers. Nice thought, but weird choice of gift for a dude.
I’d be weirded out. Flowers ain’t my thing and honestly it reeks of “trying too hard.”
Two situations:
Betsy was in my 4th grade class. We went to the same high school and did not talk to each other much for all those years. I knew her sister better from classes and being in the same play production. I played hockey with her brother, and we had some crazy jokes on the hockey team. I feel like I know her and her family well enough going back years. 12 years after high school I walked into a bar 2,000 miles from our high school. We chatted. Then I asked her if she wanted to go to a hockey game that was in 3 weeks. And before that date she called me and asked me to meet her for lunch on her break. So it was our official first date. And she brought me flowers from her garden. That was great!
Now think of someone I have not met IRL. We set up a date on OLD. If she is hot I would love flowers. If she is not my perfect date it might be creepy.
So if it is a first meeting, I would wait until it is a real first date. Think of Betsy. The first meeting in the bar was an accident, and not a date. We met and then decided to date. Perfect. First meeting on OLD? Different story.
Edit to add that we met at a cafe and went to a table. She had flowers in a jar that was washed out. They were great on the table for lunch, and then I walked home with them. Walking around the city might make it awkward.
i would have the brightest smile. i like seeing things that are unexpected in love.
Confused…..unless I talked about having a vase or something if be really fucking confused.
She bought me something to show me she’s interested. It’s the first fuckin date, it’s sweet, it would work on me. It’s not that deep, sometimes people can just be nice to each other and it can be nice.
Flattered. It’s a nice gesture. I don’t get the instant “red flag” responses here.
Are you a goth then fine ..is it your first ever date ..it really depends ..if you’re not sure. Don’t ..if you feel it’s what you want to do 100 per cent ..then do it
A very sweet idea but maybe make it a single flower so it’s not as awkward and cumbersome. And less expensive! I know flowers aren’t super expensive but a bunch of flowers will probably make the guy feel a bit bad, especially if he didn’t bring you anything he’ll think “I feel like such a jerk, she went to all this trouble and I didn’t bring her anything!”. Whereas a single flower will feel more like a simple gesture.
Still, very sweet of you to want to do such a nice thing for a first date!
I am going to be completely honest I would feel slightly weird about it. It’s the first date and suddenly getting flowers would throw me off. Granted I don’t particularly care for flowers so I have to intellectualize the whole thing as I understand it’s supposed to be a kind gesture but it does nothing for me.
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Honestly my first thought would be that some other guy gave her flowers on her way over.
Once I realized they were for me I’d be Slightly annoyed that I’d now have to find some way to display these for if she ever comes over, but I’d appreciate the thought and pretend to be grateful.
A hard to kill potted plant would be more genuinely appreciated.
Insanely flattered, but somewhat confused.
Simpel hit her with an uno reverse card.
Confused a bit but also very curious as to why she would do that.
Seems kind of sweet.
I’d be thinking that she’s just come back from a date with someone else. She certainly wouldn’t have bought them to take on a date.
Weird af
I’d be kind of flattered. I have no use for flowers in the house but the fact that it occurred to her to do it is pretty cool.
I’d think she selfish and unimaginative. This is what she would want. Not me for sure. Just showing up at all is plenty.
I do not want flowers.
I would appreciate the intent and make me think she was open minded, kind and bold.
I wouldn’t be insanely creeped out, I wouldn’t be flattered, and I wouldn’t be anything inbetween. Also, wtf? Why would anyone be insanely creeped out? If you’d be, please get yourself checked for that is not healthy.
I would be flattered exponentionally. I would be floored. I would be mind-blown in the most positive way possible. I would be INSANELY flattered.
So, yes please. Where do I sign? That being said, no I wouldn’t be creeped out at all, but I would be kinda wary tbh. My trust has been broken too much for me to be able to just belief someone would love me and buy me something special like that. I’ll take the flowers, absolutely, and I’ll be very flattered, but I won’t draw any conclusions from it.
It would be nice, but where am I putting them for the duration of the date?
I’d appreciate any thoughtful gesture that someone made
If I’m at my house it’s not terrible because I can put them in a vase before leaving but I don’t want to carry that the whole night.
I love it. Lots of guys don’t get any flowers until their funeral, which is kind of a bummer.
“Aww… how sweet… you killed something for me!”
Bit confused but wouldn’t particulary care.
I would probably be really happy she did something so thoughtful. Nobody has ever gotten me flowers before. Especially not before a date. Men don’t get presents really and we especially don’t get date gifts. I would be super happy about it. I’d be walking around with my flowers all proud I got a gift unless I got them at home in which case I’d place them in a vase.
I wouldn’t be creeped out, but it would be weird for me. That’s very out of the norm, so it would catch me off guard a bit. Then as someone else said, what do I do with them after I’ve received them?
I’d be happy if she just shows up
That’s a bit much and I think I would be turned off. The first date is a vibe check and if you are giving me flowers I’m thinking you’re love bombing me/you have an anxious attachment style .
It is heavily dependant on how into her I am
Either way, it’ll be a nuisance to carry the flowers, but if I’m into her, it’ll still be an endearing gesture
Nice gesture, but emotionally empty because she doesn’t know me yet.
That being said, such a temporary gift isn’t so out of place for someone you don’t know.
That was very nice of you. Let me get a vase and put them in water real quick.
It’s a red flag telling me she’s going to be high maintenance. A woman who would do that obviously loves flowers/gifts and I am not a big gift giver, nor do I care to receive gifts either.
Weirded and creeped out and probably would immediately write her off. I’d play nice but be very offended by it. It’d be clear she’s going to be one of those “screw gender norms at every possible moment” people.
How would she feel if then at Christmas I gave her NBA 2K26 for PS5?
I’ll offer an alternative from the last time I answered a question like this: Take a picture of the flowers, print it out and hand him those.
No awkwardness having to now handle a delicate gift all throughout the date; you can fold it up and put it in a pocket. And you can do a line like “I was told a picture lasts longer” besides, which is worth it on its own.
I’d be concerned. Love bombing is a dangerous red flag. Most women don’t do that. Most men don’t do that. It’s a red flag.
If we were dating, and she brought those on the 6th date, I’d be flattered
Flattered. One i have never gotten a gift on a 1st date so flowers would be great
Here native and invasive flowers are so nice, If a woman would come to me with these, I would melt away.
Flattered and confused.
Flattered, because it’s a gesture I’ve never gotten before, and it implies at least some level of interest higher than seeing me as a second bank account.
Confused, because what the heck am I supposed to do with flowers? I definitely don’t have a green thumb, so they probably aren’t gonna last long before they wither and die, and I don’t think I even own a vase to put them in.
Definitely a net positive though, and not a small one.
Cute, uncommon though. Dunno what I’d do with them during the date?
“Uhh, did you just come from another date?”
Not a good move. First date? We don’t know one another, you don’t know how he’ll take it and he won’t know what you’re trying to convey.
Likely that you’re tryna be sweet, but I’ve been on some dates with some bizarre cats, and this could be some kind of power move, best to not confuse the situation anymore than a first date already is.
I’d feel embarrassed honestly. I like giving gifts not receiving them. I also like it when a girl is a bit shy, this is just too upfront and I’d feel like I’m the woman 😆
My now gf made me an origami flower out of perfumed paper on our first date. She got me flowers (the first time I ever received some) on my next birthday.
Did I answer your question?
Complimented. Big time.
Realise she just came from another date. He gave her flowers and I’m getting sloppy seconds.
It would be unexpected. Idk if I’d carry the flowers with me. But I’d definitely appreciate the gesture.
A bit weird. How many other guys have received them? Why me? Where am I supposed to put them? These are the things I’d be thinking. I’d definitely have my guard up and would be slightly annoyed at having to carry them when I more than likely wouldn’t be carrying anything else. If they were handed to me at the end, that wouldn’t be so bad but that wasn’t the question lol.
Wierd
Yes.
It would be much appreciated. I wouldn’t flattered nor creeped out. I would think that the woman was thoughtful, nice, and hopefully liked me enough.
I brought my soon to be wife flowers on the second date because I was picking her up at her house. I wouldn’t brink them and make them a burden to carry all night.
I wouldn’t be creeped out, but I wouldn’t like it
Shook, I would be shook, I would never expect anything like that from a girl on our first date, I’ll feel so bad for even making her want to get them for me, I would be grateful but guilty at the same time lol, but at least you’ll know she cares about you!
I’d be flattered…and interested. It’s different, and often “different” beats boring.
I’m genuinely loving the variety of answers here because it mirrors exactly how women feel about getting flowers as gifts on a date. Appreciate the thought, but stuck carrying them around, and what am I doing with them after?– to– I’d hang onto them all night and smile the whole time about it.
That’s just weird. The fuck am I going to do with some flowers? I can’t see myself buying a vase and doing whatever else one does with flowers.