I would drop them like a hot potato. Do my friends talk to me about things I’m not interested in? All the time, and I probably do the same to them. But I always hear them out and respect their thoughts and interests even if they don’t align with mine. It doesn’t matter what it’s about, saying that to someone is just disrespectful.
Honestly, I’d probably just go quiet for a second, feel kinda awkward, and change the subject. Then later I’d overthink it and wonder if I should even bring it up or just let it slide.
I’d stop talking. Then I’d wonder if they don’t care because they really don’t care or if it’s because the topic is triggering/upsetting/controversial and then I’ll start overthinking and wanting to ask how they feel and if it’s the latter I’ll take it as an opportunity to learn more about them but if it’s the first reason then I’d drop them for being rude because why have that negativity around.
This has happened to me. It was my sister, though– so my best friend. I was hurt and really surprised. I changed the subject and then left soon after.
But I didn’t drop the relationship because this was uncharacteristic behavior of her. I reflected and wondered if I’d been hogging the conversation or something to make her react that way, and then decided that her current life stressors were preventing her from having much empathy at the time.
I kept it in the back of my mind the next time we chatted and although she never apologized (I never asked for one and she didn’t think she’d done anything “wrong”), things went back to normal, more or less.
Depends on what I’m talking about honestly, like I know I can go on and on about inane bs sometimes as I have these little personal obsessions that I realize friends humor me with, so I’d probably laugh if someone had their fill of that and needed to cut me off.
However if I’m laying down something personal and important and they come out with that we will be having a come to Jesus moment real quick.
Gotta remember though, there is a reason why a therapist gets paid and a friendship is free. Don’t treat your friends like a dumping ground for every little thought that’s in your head, sometimes they are going through their own stuff and just don’t have the capacity. If all your conversations start with “I, me or my” and you never ask how they’re doing, they may be justified.
I mean….is this something yall already talked about or something that they already warned you would go a certain way and you didn’t listen and now you want to vent about it? Was this conversation involving a person that your friend really doesn’t like and try’s to have nothing to do with? Like, this question has to have more info in it for me to make a snap decision. I talk to much, sometimes I need to be told that that’s enough lol 😂
I had a friend like that, she would constantly interrupt me when I was talking about one specific thing, she hated it! I didn’t even bring it up very often, and I usually wasn’t talking to her, but to a mutual friend that was also interested in it. I stopped being friends with her.
Well… they wouldn’t be my friend to begin with likely. Who says that? All my friends are the most curious & fun people I know. We always share the most random things and ponder about thoughts; never a dull moment.
Depends on my mood but only one of two reactions – mention something stupid they do that i put up with and keep talking, or say ok and leave and never speak to them again
Stop talking. But then take several major steps back from the friendship. I find that super rude and I wouldn’t do that to a friend so I require the same in return.
I’d actually really appreciate the direct feedback. Sure, my ego would take a hit briefly, but in the long run, I’d really like knowing the explicit boundaries of our relationship.
I would probably stop talking, feel weird and change the subject. Later I would think about the situation, maybe I would ask someone else for advice or probably (100%) I would simply cut that person out of my life. Unfortunately, I have no problem with that and I would start avoiding this person.
>”oh really, can you tell me why?”
Immediately walk away as they open their mouth to reply. Disrespect is a power game and I hate playing peoples stupid games.
I’d wonder if I’d been droning on about something & monopolizing the conversation. If I had, I’d apologize & ask what they would rather talk about.
If I hadn’t, I’d call them out with “Wow. Rude.” And downgrade them from friend to aquaintance (unless they have some disability that would make their rudeness more understandable.) There are so many tactful ways to redirect a conversation and if this ‘friend’ thinks I’m not worth being nice to then they are not a friend.
Just stop talking. Pause while looking at them. Get up, get your stuff. Tell them to have a good day and leave. That’s the last conversation you have with them.
On a first read this seems ruthlessly rude. But my thoughts change depending on the context:
– Was there a point before this that they said “I don’t wan’t to talk about XYZ” and you continued to talk about it? Because if you continue to talk about a subject that is inappropriate or unwanted then that makes you the rude/dismissive one.
– Do you have a tendency to ramble and talk over the other person, oblivious to them or their responses? You may have missed multiple clues that the other person is uninterested or busy or stressed. In which case both you you are being rude (even if not intentionally).
– Was this a perfectly tame conversation where they suddenly interrupted (rude) to tell you they don’t care (mean)? Then they are AH and not worth your breath.
I’d feel embarrassed and hurt. It’s kind of a rude thing to say, even jokingly. Not sure I’d call on that friend again either, unless they showed some genuine interest in hanging out with me.
Bring it up. Do they recognize they’re doing it? Be an adult and talk to them about it. “Hey I noticed that sometimes you interrupt me or stop me during a topic you’re not interested in…”
I had this happen to me when I was telling a “friend” I was getting a biopsy and was scared. We fought and he apologized, and I stupidly agreed to stay friends
Years later, they sexually assaulted me at a party and went what, other male friends didn’t do worse?
I think in general that would really hurt my feelings and my initial reaction would be to never share my thoughts or feelings with them about any topic ever again.
I used to talk to my ex husband about my family, friends, and things that happened at work. One day he stropped me mid sentence and said « why are you telling me this? I don’t know these people. I don’t care…. » I never told him anything about my life ever again and we divorced about a year later.
I’ve done this to a roommate before. It was because I had already asked them many times to stop bombarding me with news headlines when I woke up or walked in from work. I also did it once or twice for some niche interest they were monologuing about. This roommate never asked me how I was without having some story they were waiting to tell the second I finished talking, never showed interest or asked follow up questions for my interests and hobbies and relationships.
Talking to them was very one sided. And that made it incredibly draining and exhausting to be on the receiving end of it all the time. Even when I tried to engage with them about their interest they wouldn’t listen to me, they’d talk over me. When I told them this they would seem hurt, promise they care and would show interest, and then they would never follow through.
All of this to say you might want to ask yourself how often you show interest in them by asking follow up questions to their own interests. They could just be an asshole. But they might also just be a very tired friend who is sick of feeling invisible.
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I would drop them like a hot potato. Do my friends talk to me about things I’m not interested in? All the time, and I probably do the same to them. But I always hear them out and respect their thoughts and interests even if they don’t align with mine. It doesn’t matter what it’s about, saying that to someone is just disrespectful.
Drop them
That’s not a friend, that’s an asshole.
Honestly, I’d probably just go quiet for a second, feel kinda awkward, and change the subject. Then later I’d overthink it and wonder if I should even bring it up or just let it slide.
I’d just stop talking and never bring up anything personal with them again. If they don’t care, I won’t waste my breath.
I’d stop talking. Then I’d wonder if they don’t care because they really don’t care or if it’s because the topic is triggering/upsetting/controversial and then I’ll start overthinking and wanting to ask how they feel and if it’s the latter I’ll take it as an opportunity to learn more about them but if it’s the first reason then I’d drop them for being rude because why have that negativity around.
Punch them in the face
Friendship is caring about one another.
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Id go about a different direction. And never look back.
This has happened to me. It was my sister, though– so my best friend. I was hurt and really surprised. I changed the subject and then left soon after.
But I didn’t drop the relationship because this was uncharacteristic behavior of her. I reflected and wondered if I’d been hogging the conversation or something to make her react that way, and then decided that her current life stressors were preventing her from having much empathy at the time.
I kept it in the back of my mind the next time we chatted and although she never apologized (I never asked for one and she didn’t think she’d done anything “wrong”), things went back to normal, more or less.
That’s not a friend.
Depends on what I’m talking about honestly, like I know I can go on and on about inane bs sometimes as I have these little personal obsessions that I realize friends humor me with, so I’d probably laugh if someone had their fill of that and needed to cut me off.
However if I’m laying down something personal and important and they come out with that we will be having a come to Jesus moment real quick.
Gotta remember though, there is a reason why a therapist gets paid and a friendship is free. Don’t treat your friends like a dumping ground for every little thought that’s in your head, sometimes they are going through their own stuff and just don’t have the capacity. If all your conversations start with “I, me or my” and you never ask how they’re doing, they may be justified.
friends don’t do that, only assholes do.
I would not be friends with someone like that. I’m old enough to know that keeping people like that around me is going to be a detriment eventually
That is not your friend and I would never speak to someone again if they did that to me.
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Not enough info. I can imagine scenarios where this would just make me laugh, equally could be really hurtful.
Depends what I was talking about. I have ADHD and so do most of my friends (all of us diagnosed), we gotta shut each other up frequently.
I mean….is this something yall already talked about or something that they already warned you would go a certain way and you didn’t listen and now you want to vent about it? Was this conversation involving a person that your friend really doesn’t like and try’s to have nothing to do with? Like, this question has to have more info in it for me to make a snap decision. I talk to much, sometimes I need to be told that that’s enough lol 😂
I had a friend like that, she would constantly interrupt me when I was talking about one specific thing, she hated it! I didn’t even bring it up very often, and I usually wasn’t talking to her, but to a mutual friend that was also interested in it. I stopped being friends with her.
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Well… they wouldn’t be my friend to begin with likely. Who says that? All my friends are the most curious & fun people I know. We always share the most random things and ponder about thoughts; never a dull moment.
Depends on my mood but only one of two reactions – mention something stupid they do that i put up with and keep talking, or say ok and leave and never speak to them again
Stop talking. But then take several major steps back from the friendship. I find that super rude and I wouldn’t do that to a friend so I require the same in return.
I’d actually really appreciate the direct feedback. Sure, my ego would take a hit briefly, but in the long run, I’d really like knowing the explicit boundaries of our relationship.
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I would probably stop talking, feel weird and change the subject. Later I would think about the situation, maybe I would ask someone else for advice or probably (100%) I would simply cut that person out of my life. Unfortunately, I have no problem with that and I would start avoiding this person.
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>”oh really, can you tell me why?”
Immediately walk away as they open their mouth to reply. Disrespect is a power game and I hate playing peoples stupid games.
Like 95% of the time I’d be pissed off, but sometimes that’s valid.
I’d stop talking.
I’d wonder if I’d been droning on about something & monopolizing the conversation. If I had, I’d apologize & ask what they would rather talk about.
If I hadn’t, I’d call them out with “Wow. Rude.” And downgrade them from friend to aquaintance (unless they have some disability that would make their rudeness more understandable.) There are so many tactful ways to redirect a conversation and if this ‘friend’ thinks I’m not worth being nice to then they are not a friend.
Stand up and leave.
Just stop talking. Pause while looking at them. Get up, get your stuff. Tell them to have a good day and leave. That’s the last conversation you have with them.
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I would ask them if they’re ok.
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They wouldn’t be my friend anymore.
On a first read this seems ruthlessly rude. But my thoughts change depending on the context:
– Was there a point before this that they said “I don’t wan’t to talk about XYZ” and you continued to talk about it? Because if you continue to talk about a subject that is inappropriate or unwanted then that makes you the rude/dismissive one.
– Do you have a tendency to ramble and talk over the other person, oblivious to them or their responses? You may have missed multiple clues that the other person is uninterested or busy or stressed. In which case both you you are being rude (even if not intentionally).
– Was this a perfectly tame conversation where they suddenly interrupted (rude) to tell you they don’t care (mean)? Then they are AH and not worth your breath.
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“okay – thanks for letting me know” and then change how i interact with them
I’d feel embarrassed and hurt. It’s kind of a rude thing to say, even jokingly. Not sure I’d call on that friend again either, unless they showed some genuine interest in hanging out with me.
Bring it up. Do they recognize they’re doing it? Be an adult and talk to them about it. “Hey I noticed that sometimes you interrupt me or stop me during a topic you’re not interested in…”
They would be dropped in a heartbeat. That’s beyond rude and just spiteful behaviour.
I had this happen to me when I was telling a “friend” I was getting a biopsy and was scared. We fought and he apologized, and I stupidly agreed to stay friends
Years later, they sexually assaulted me at a party and went what, other male friends didn’t do worse?
I didn’t give him a pass the second time.
Do not tolerate disrespect.
Drop them. Friendship isn’t a one way street and I sure as hell wouldn’t say that to any of mine.
My mother does this to me. It’s an awful thing to do.
Talk to them, then drop them if it doesn’t change
That’s not a friend
If one my current friends said that to me I’d be super shocked and have to ask if they’re okay. That would be extremely out of character for them
I would not count that person as a friend.
That’s extremely rude. If you don’t care about what I’m saying go and talk to yourself.
I’d probably get tears in my eyes and leave. I’m sensitive, and it would make me not want to open up anymore.
I think in general that would really hurt my feelings and my initial reaction would be to never share my thoughts or feelings with them about any topic ever again.
I used to talk to my ex husband about my family, friends, and things that happened at work. One day he stropped me mid sentence and said « why are you telling me this? I don’t know these people. I don’t care…. » I never told him anything about my life ever again and we divorced about a year later.
I’ve done this to a roommate before. It was because I had already asked them many times to stop bombarding me with news headlines when I woke up or walked in from work. I also did it once or twice for some niche interest they were monologuing about. This roommate never asked me how I was without having some story they were waiting to tell the second I finished talking, never showed interest or asked follow up questions for my interests and hobbies and relationships.
Talking to them was very one sided. And that made it incredibly draining and exhausting to be on the receiving end of it all the time. Even when I tried to engage with them about their interest they wouldn’t listen to me, they’d talk over me. When I told them this they would seem hurt, promise they care and would show interest, and then they would never follow through.
All of this to say you might want to ask yourself how often you show interest in them by asking follow up questions to their own interests. They could just be an asshole. But they might also just be a very tired friend who is sick of feeling invisible.
Drop them
I had a friend also say something similar to me . I reevaluated the friendship and dropped them .
Honestly tho , re-evaluate the friendship .
“Damn, you’re being really rude right now.”
It is not a true friend. You deserve better. Get a new friend.