This wasn’t as much of an issue for me before baby. They all smoke cigarettes and cannabis, I don’t. I’d go outside and sit on the deck with them usually. Now that we have a baby, I’m stuck inside most of the time. It was a beautiful day and the last thing I wanted to do was sit inside with the baby and older son and watch cartoons while the adults are outside 50% of the time of the visit. My boyfriend included. I voiced wanting to come outside with baby but it being “too hot and smoky” and my bf started saying we could go down below, but then got distracted and it never happened. Needless to say I was pissed and don’t wanna go there next time. What would you do?
TLDR: frustrated that while at my bf’s parents house on a beautiful day, I’m stuck inside most of the time with baby and kids shows while the adults outside to smoke. How do I navigate this?
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I’d go outside and sit away from the smoke.
Not very considerate people your bf’s family.
Honestly I wouldn’t go
i feel you. my ex’s family and friends smoked cannabis and cigarettes. whenever they come over and the baby and i are outside, i ask them not to smoke or to walk to the front of the house to smoke. i can’t tell people what to do at their own house, so if i don’t feel like dealing with it or having to go inside every time someone lights up, i just don’t go.
and if people ask why you keep going inside / staying inside, i’d just be honest and straightforward and say “i don’t want my baby to inhale secondhand smoke.” hopefully they’d get the hint that if they want to spend time with the baby, they’ll have to put down the vice while you’re there.
i understand how frustrating this is, don’t feel bad about doing what’s best for your baby and good luck 💚
I wouldn’t go period. 2nd hand causes developmental delays in children.
Im not risking my kids well being for trailer trash
You don’t want to go and they are giving you the perfect excuse. You know who will love to back you up? Your child’s pediatrician! Ask them to write you a note
Make it a shorter trip.
Can I ask how old you are?