Anybody who is my friend would already know that I’m not even a tiny bit gay or bi, so it’d be awfully awkward for them since they’d already know the answer to their advances. I’d ask them if they were mentally okay, I guess.
I’d tell them that I don’t feel the same way towards them. I like my male friends, but not in that way ¯_(ツ)_/¯ I think they’d be disappointed, but they’d also understand.
i wouldnt necesarily cut anyone off because of that but people can be different. some men are scared of having gay male friends because they dont want to feel like theyre being flirted with by another man and i get that too, if youre straight it just doesnt feel right to continue in a conversation like that. if youre planning on telling someone just be ready for rejection in case they dont feel the same and emphasize that you still want to be friends and its not a big deal and youll get over it but you just needed to say it so that u could get over it.
Cut him off? No. But I’m also letting him know that I only date for long term in mind and while I’m bi I don’t want a long term relationship with a guy.
This happened to me! I was totally down to remain friends but unfortunately he wasn’t. Bummer because he was a really fun guy to hang out with, I’m just into chicks.
My best friend 3 years ago told me that he wished we met under different circumstances and wished we didn’t grow up Pentecostal or religious.
I was the DD and he was fairly drunk and was dealing with a lot mentally at the time, so I just shrugged it off and laughed a bit.
And then the entire mood just changed in the car and he grabbed my hand with his one hand and said “this is as close as I’ll ever get” and he had this moment of genuine clarity and said “I love you, not like a friend, not like a brother, but like you’re my other half.”
Now I’m bisexual and he knew that but this was the time when I was deeply closeted and suicidal.
I just sat there for like an hour, driving around town, just holding his hand.
We didn’t talk for like a year soon after that, he was in active addiction and I was starting to drink again. But we both sobered up.
We meet up every now and then to grab food or hang out.
But I’m 1000% sure that that moment in my car is as far as it will ever go.
I would wonder why he said it since he knows I’m straight. It kind of depends on how he acts. If he is expecting something to happen and kept trying to flirt or make something happen he’d be cut off.
I’d probably distance myself to allow them to get over it. The relationship is too skewed at that point. Would be the same as if it was a female I didn’t have a romantic/sexual interest in
Unpopular, but yes I would. Dumping your feelings on someone normally comes with the expectation, no matter how delusional, that they are reciprocated. It is not a move made from anything other than self interest and an attempt to change the dynamic of the relationship itself.
Keeping that person around would only feed that delusion that things could be different and there would forever be a strain on the friendship.
Let me tell you something young people. You’re not a bad person for not wanting to put up with that dynamic. It’s ok to do what’s best for you.
Tell him that I’m flattered but definitely uninterested, and suggest that we take some time to see each other less for a while to give him space to get over it. If he still wants to be friends afterwards then sure, if not, it’s a shame but shit happens.
Although actually, I am in a long term relationship these days, so I’d probably be less cool with someone dropping that on me now than I would have been when single. I don’t mind someone being into me when I’m not interested, I do however have a problem with someone disrespecting my relationship by acting as though Im going to be interested in anyone else.
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Sorry but is this a male and another male, or you a woman
My female best friend told me she loved me , so we dated and eventually got married, bought a house and had kids. Do that
‘Well who wouldn’t fall in love with moi?!” (I’d be saying this in jest). But really if it doesn’t compromise the friendship it’s no big deal.
Anybody who is my friend would already know that I’m not even a tiny bit gay or bi, so it’d be awfully awkward for them since they’d already know the answer to their advances. I’d ask them if they were mentally okay, I guess.
I’d tell them that I don’t feel the same way towards them. I like my male friends, but not in that way ¯_(ツ)_/¯ I think they’d be disappointed, but they’d also understand.
Sorry bro, but I’m straight.
Flattered tho, but won’t date.
“That’s cool, I still need to know what toppings you want on your pizza”
i wouldnt necesarily cut anyone off because of that but people can be different. some men are scared of having gay male friends because they dont want to feel like theyre being flirted with by another man and i get that too, if youre straight it just doesnt feel right to continue in a conversation like that. if youre planning on telling someone just be ready for rejection in case they dont feel the same and emphasize that you still want to be friends and its not a big deal and youll get over it but you just needed to say it so that u could get over it.
Cut him off? No. But I’m also letting him know that I only date for long term in mind and while I’m bi I don’t want a long term relationship with a guy.
This happened to me! I was totally down to remain friends but unfortunately he wasn’t. Bummer because he was a really fun guy to hang out with, I’m just into chicks.
I’d be pretty surprised, since most of my male friends are straight.
But if it was some hypothetical male friend I was attracted to… then anything could happen lol.
My best friend 3 years ago told me that he wished we met under different circumstances and wished we didn’t grow up Pentecostal or religious.
I was the DD and he was fairly drunk and was dealing with a lot mentally at the time, so I just shrugged it off and laughed a bit.
And then the entire mood just changed in the car and he grabbed my hand with his one hand and said “this is as close as I’ll ever get” and he had this moment of genuine clarity and said “I love you, not like a friend, not like a brother, but like you’re my other half.”
Now I’m bisexual and he knew that but this was the time when I was deeply closeted and suicidal.
I just sat there for like an hour, driving around town, just holding his hand.
We didn’t talk for like a year soon after that, he was in active addiction and I was starting to drink again. But we both sobered up.
We meet up every now and then to grab food or hang out.
But I’m 1000% sure that that moment in my car is as far as it will ever go.
Probably.
I would wonder why he said it since he knows I’m straight. It kind of depends on how he acts. If he is expecting something to happen and kept trying to flirt or make something happen he’d be cut off.
I’d probably distance myself to allow them to get over it. The relationship is too skewed at that point. Would be the same as if it was a female I didn’t have a romantic/sexual interest in
Yes, because I’ve stayed friends with people who did this to me and it never ended well
Unpopular, but yes I would. Dumping your feelings on someone normally comes with the expectation, no matter how delusional, that they are reciprocated. It is not a move made from anything other than self interest and an attempt to change the dynamic of the relationship itself.
Keeping that person around would only feed that delusion that things could be different and there would forever be a strain on the friendship.
Let me tell you something young people. You’re not a bad person for not wanting to put up with that dynamic. It’s ok to do what’s best for you.
Straight up tell him I am not interested and that is not my thing. If he wanted to stay away that is up to him.
It really depends who that friend is
Tell him that I’m flattered but definitely uninterested, and suggest that we take some time to see each other less for a while to give him space to get over it. If he still wants to be friends afterwards then sure, if not, it’s a shame but shit happens.
Although actually, I am in a long term relationship these days, so I’d probably be less cool with someone dropping that on me now than I would have been when single. I don’t mind someone being into me when I’m not interested, I do however have a problem with someone disrespecting my relationship by acting as though Im going to be interested in anyone else.