Yes, he is Too Much. But he is a fictional character whose origin is actual comics–of course he’s going to be a caricature.
But I do think that partners should not be afraid to ADORE and DOTE UPON their partners. While I would not want my person to make an over-the-top show of their desire any time I did something they liked (Gomez swooning and kissing up Morticia’s arm when she says a word in French), I would certainly want them to be effusive and sincere in their praise when I do something cool. I would not want my partner to start duels for my honor or blow themselves up for fun or any of the other cartoonish things Gomez does in The Addams family, but I would want them to love me and be devoted to me and not be afraid to make that clear.
I would not want a cartoon character for a partner, because I am a real-life person in the real world.
I have one and I LOVE that man hahaha. The affection was a bit much in the beginning, especially as I wasn’t an overly affectionate person but now I love it hahah🥰🥰🥰
I had an ex who always told me we were Gomez and Morticia. The whole, “Cara Mia! Mon cher!” thing. We both had the dark esthetics, and at the time, I thought it was romantic.
It was one of the most toxic relationships of my 20s.
He’s so great in the Addams Family. In the real world that would feel like love bombing. Very few people could really say all of those things and mean them.
In therapy concerning couples, the purposeful flirting and maintaining of an erotic spark is called simmering. If I met a man who wanted to put in an ounce of the effort Gomez does, I would definitely want to get to know him.
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Yes, he is Too Much. But he is a fictional character whose origin is actual comics–of course he’s going to be a caricature.
But I do think that partners should not be afraid to ADORE and DOTE UPON their partners. While I would not want my person to make an over-the-top show of their desire any time I did something they liked (Gomez swooning and kissing up Morticia’s arm when she says a word in French), I would certainly want them to be effusive and sincere in their praise when I do something cool. I would not want my partner to start duels for my honor or blow themselves up for fun or any of the other cartoonish things Gomez does in The Addams family, but I would want them to love me and be devoted to me and not be afraid to make that clear.
I would not want a cartoon character for a partner, because I am a real-life person in the real world.
yes. that sounds awful.
My wife and I are a lot like that. As long as you’re both into it and not makings others uncomfortable it’s fun.
I have one and I LOVE that man hahaha. The affection was a bit much in the beginning, especially as I wasn’t an overly affectionate person but now I love it hahah🥰🥰🥰
Morticia’s reactions were pretty well on point.
I had an ex who always told me we were Gomez and Morticia. The whole, “Cara Mia! Mon cher!” thing. We both had the dark esthetics, and at the time, I thought it was romantic.
It was one of the most toxic relationships of my 20s.
He’s so great in the Addams Family. In the real world that would feel like love bombing. Very few people could really say all of those things and mean them.
Someday I hope I can find a 50/50 mix of “The Gomez to my Morticia” and “The Chandler to my Monica”. Gomez isn’t cringe because he’s authentic.
In therapy concerning couples, the purposeful flirting and maintaining of an erotic spark is called simmering. If I met a man who wanted to put in an ounce of the effort Gomez does, I would definitely want to get to know him.