How would you respond to finding out your partner of multiple years had lied frequently to you during your relationship?
How would you respond to finding out your partner of multiple years had lied frequently to you during your relationship?
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I mean, I divorced him and took my share.
I would take it poorly
I would be absolutely heartbroken
I have terrible self worth and a complicated enmeshed relationship… we own a business together, we support both sets of our elderly parents, we have beautiful kids together… separately we have huge debt, no jobs, no house, half the kids, homeless parents… we’re f’d… so I responded in none of the ways I would like and it’s destroying a lot of my soul… but sometimes life is bigger than one man’s shitty choices… so we carry on. I go to therapy, I have great friends and I don’t forget and I won’t ever trust him again.
I divorced him, lol
I would feel free, because after learning that, I would be.
??? i’d be thrilled 🤩what is this question lmaooo
First, silence. They don’t get to hear my voice for a few days, maybe even weeks. Then, once composed enough, communicating the issues with each lie. Making it very clear they’re lack of consideration for those in their life. Finally, offering options to correct the issues within a timely manner and establish transparency expectations.
Habitual liars don’t want to put in the effort to change, though, so they usually fall short of the clear expectations. I leave after that.
If you are staying, he has to get into individual therapy. I suggest it for you too because why are you putting up with this?
If there is improvement by both, you can then try couples therapy.
It might depend on what the lies were, what they were lying about. But for the most part, if it’s a lot, I would end it.