Long story short, my dad moved away around the time I was 4 years old. Details are muddy to me about the past but, in 2013 I moved down to Florida to stay with him and basically start a new life. I’ve been on my own for 10 or so years and I have a son who’s about to turn 10.
My mother was consistently emotionally absent, consumed in her work or relationship, my stepfather was verbally abusive and I’ve also gotten in physical fights with him from the time of 10yrs old til 19. to this day, it’s tough to touch on the subject of my childhood with her. My father on the other hand, has consistently expressed remorse, but then again not much else. To be honest? I just don’t think my grandfather was a good dad too him, and it left him and his brothers kind of winging it throughout life.
We’ve had sort of an unconventional father-son relationship but we do connect on a lot. I reached out to him tonight because I want to sit down and really have a hard talk now that I feel secure enough in myself to handle all truths.
Sorry for the ramble but I guess I’m trying to hear similar stories to know I’m not alone? Is it terrible to say life would just go on for me if they passed on? But I love my son with all my heart and we have a connection like none other, but I’ll never feel the other side of that
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I get along get along great with my dad. Can’t fucking stand my mother. And they’re still married, so they’re a package deal. I can’t spend time with my dad without being forced to endure my mother.
And my dad will almost certainly shuffle off this mortal coil first, so I’ll probably never get any quality time with him that my mother won’t ruin. Which makes me very sad, but there is no solution. It is what it is.