I (23) and husband (23M) were out eating dinner he had mention his coworker mentioned going to the gym together. My husband isn’t big he slim with some fat rolls (rarely can see them) , not crazy big obviously his goal would be gaining and bulking. I 23F am 7 months pregnant this would be our second kid. I have gained weight since my pregnancy when he mentioned about his coworker and going to the gym, I jokingly said “ for you can get fit before me, I thought we wanted to do it together after this baby”. I mentioned it because we used to go to the gym together we stopped going because he had a hand injury and wasn’t able to lift or do much. So we had to stop paying for a membership. When I had jokingly said that he said. “by the time I go to the gym I’m going to be big as you”. I held my tears back as he said that because he knows that I’ve been trying to move more and get back in track of losing weight since this baby is almost out I did tell myself I’m going to lock in after this baby is out. As soon as I’m clear for my scheduled c section, I’m going back working on myself, physically and mentally. I can admit that I have gained weight I am not blindsided about that. I am hurt for what he said. I am hurt he knows I’m struggling with my image accepting my pregnant body.. I already feel like I’m losing myself with this second pregnancy physically and mentally.. I am very hurt.
He did apologize after saying that. But I was too hurt to hear it. I didn’t want to hear. Now I feel disgusting and unwanted from him. We have an active sex life but it feels like he’s forcing to have sex with me. And he truly just doesn’t find me attractive if he can sit there and make a comment like that. I feel disgusting now looking at myself..
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I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Pregnancy is hard enough without insensitive comments. Maybe try writing down your feelings and sharing them with him? Has couples counseling ever been an option for you both?
You’re not disgusting you’re carrying life. His comment was hurtful and unfair. You deserve compassion especially now. Take your time healing, both emotionally and physically
OP that is awful. You are growing a human. He should be doing everything for you and worshipping you like the Goddess you are. Honestly, he needs to make this up to you. I’d also suggest couples counseling to work out any other issues you have. Good luck to you.
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. It sounds like you need to have a serious talk about how his words affect you. Have you considered couples counseling to improve communication?
Wow he sounds like a narc
That was a hurtful thing for him to say, especially now. Maybe couples therapy could help you both communicate better? It might be good to address this now.