My husband and I have been together almost two decades. This Saturday is my birthday. He doesn’t care much about birthdays, but knows they’re a big deal to me. Two weeks ago, he told me that he accepted an opportunity to attend a big event for the hobby about which he is passionate. He has gone to this event for the past two or three years. He had forgotten that the event fell ON my birthday. I asked him not to go as I had already made plans for that day. He said he would think about it, but ended up just going to the event anyway.
I’m always clear with him about what I want. I am not vague and this is not the first time something like this has happened. Each time something like this occurs, I address how I feel, he promises to do better, things improve for a couple of months, then I’m right back to being a doormat. I feel hurt and taken for granted.
Am I blowing this out of proportion? Should I just be grateful he is a great father and a good provider? I quit my six-figure career to be with him years ago (he is in the military), and I don’t want to keep throwing that sacrifice in his face, but I feel like I deserve better.
Thanks for letting me vent.
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You deserve better. He clearly doesn’t appreciate you to keep doing that. If he cared enough he would do better, do with that information what you will.