I’ve noticed he gets a little worked up when she’s mentioned in our therapy sessions, does this still mean he has feelings for her? She’s not mentioned often but when she is he gets really defensive.
Husband gets defensive about ex
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I’ve noticed he gets a little worked up when she’s mentioned in our therapy sessions, does this still mean he has feelings for her? She’s not mentioned often but when she is he gets really defensive.
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Defensiveness is a red flag not of love but of unfinished business. If he flinches at her name it’s not about her it’s about what he hasn’t faced in himself.
If just saying her name sends him into defense mode, there’s something he hasn’t dealt with. People don’t flinch over nothing.
As others have said, he definitely has some sort of unfinished beef with his ex. You’re right to be worried, but in the end it’s only him that knows what exactly happened and hopefully he is comfortable enough to share it with you.
Obviously he is still in love with her. I’ve been trying to scrub my ex out of my brain for a year. Nothing works. It’s really annoying and never happened to me before