His friend flew in from Chicago to visit us this weekend. We live near the DC area, so there are a lot of things to do, and we have been having fun until the car kept hitting the bumps, and he didn’t try to slow down. I was joking: “Whenever I accidentally hit one of those, he would scream.” And suddenly he yelled: “Shut up, just shut up.”
The atmosphere got really weird, and everyone stopped talking. He has been ignoring me. I apologized and tried to figure out what went wrong, but he didn’t want to talk.
Guys, was I wrong for saying that? Is it something that makes men embarrassed?
Just want to add some context:I don’t have a lot of experience talking with men because of my grow up background, dating experience, and profession, so I don’t know much about the things between men friendship? Would something like that make you embarrassed in front of your friends
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His friend flew in from Chicago to visit us this weekend. We live near the DC area, so there are a lot of things to do and we have been having fun until the car kept hitting the bumps and he didn’t try to slow down. I was joking: “whenever I accidentally hit one of those, he would scream.” And suddenly he yelled: “shut up, just shut up.”
The atmosphere got really weird and everyone stops talking. He has been ignoring me. Guys, was i wrong for saying that? He actually does it and it wasn’t like I made it up
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He may do it but it doesn’t mean you shame him in front of others for it. Guaranteed you have your own version of this that you would be livid if he shared to your friends.
Screaming “Shut up, just shut up!” is rarely a positive thing.
I don’t yell at my partner. Ever. Not once has that ever seemed like the correct response to a situation. Is your husband a teenager with anger management problems?
You definitely chastised him in front of his friend, but that’s still not normal. There’s a lot of built up (I’m assuming unaddressed?) resentment towards you for him to completely blow up at you.
Apologize, but the blowing up needs to be addressed and figured out.