I am 25F, husband is 39M. We have one child who is 6.
For the last.. I’d say month, my husband keeps accidentally hurting me.
It started off with him reaching behind to hand our son something and hitting me in the face/ eye area. We weren’t driving. We were just parked in the car and I was in the passenger seat turned around with our son. He clearly saw me there and reached around and it and hit me.
There was another time when he was driving and reached his arm completely over in the passenger seat to point to something and hit me in the face with his hand.
Then we were in the middle of moving and I was holding a bag open for him to put a piece of a metal part in, and I watched him drop it in the bag harder than a normal person would. I saw it. I wasn’t holding the bag tight enough to allow this kind of impact and it ended up falling on my foot and hurt extremely bad.
The final time was making more sense to me to think this is being done on purpose. I had BOTH my legs in the door frame of the car in the garage, eating. My feet were inside the door and I was facing outwards with my car door open.
He comes beside the door and talks to me for a minute and gets some trash out to throw away.. then slams the car door. On my feet. I started crying this one hurt so bad and this is when I got angry.
I said how the hell did you not see me there? You were standing right beside me and saw I had my feet propped up and legs facing outwards and you slammed the door on me. Our child started asking if I was okay and why daddy did that because even they saw my legs and knew how I was sitting from the back of the car through the crack in the side of the seat.
Now last night, while “asleep” he told me to “move over bitch”.
I ask him why he told me this and he called me a liar and said that never happened! Then he tried for tell me I must have been the one sleeping and dreamed it. I said I have texts to prove I was awake. I couldn’t go back to sleep after that and was so confused, I was on social media and responding to some messages. It was about 4;30AM.
My husband and I have had a lot of marital issues and a history of emotional and even some physical abuse. He claims he believes he’s a “narcissist” and needs help. Which I am beginning to think all these “accidents” are on purpose.
We had a target order that needed returned and he was going over on that side of town. The night before I ask if he could please return it while he’s there and he said sure, shoot him a text to remind him. So I did. That morning I also verbally reminded him and reminded him again LITERALLY 1 minute before he walked out of the door to grab the return. He said okay.
When he got home I ask if we got refunded, and he said he “forgot” to even get the return. This has been going on non stop. I will talk to him or we will make a plan for something and he’s always forgetting.
I truly in my heart believe this is being done on purpose given the prior nature of our marriage too. I don’t know what to do but it’s making me feel crazy.