Right me and my husband have been together for 15 nearly 15½ in August but married for 8 in October. My husband has had a friend since 2006. So they had been friends for 4 years before I came on the scene. Me & his best friend have always have tons banter of together. Not last weekend but the other weekend, he fully admitted he was flown blown in love with me. I thought he was joking, he was serious. It’s because it was the first time me & him have been alone together. I have told my husband everything. He isn’t jealous at all. But his best friend doesn’t know my husband knows. He thinks it’s cute, & about time his friend got decent taste in women. Me & his friend are still friends should talk, am I doing the wrong thing? Because I don’t want to ruin our friendship either.
Husband’s best friend loves me
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Your husband is in on it. He wants to share you with his friend. Incoming 3some if you agree.
I don’t know the ins and outs of the relationships / level of friendship you 3 have.
But if my beste mate told my wife that stuff I would have a serious chat with him. You don’t say that to a dudes’ wife. Certainly not as a best friend.
I bet my wife would not feel comfortable being alone with him after that. But she isn’t you so you do what you think is best.
If I where you, I would distance myself a bit for the time being. And tell your husband to sort that out.
Good luck!
You have to get clear on your intention. If you don’t want to affect the friendship then focus on accepting that this is your life now. If you don’t want this to be your life now, then take some action but accept you will affect things.
There is no advice really for this IMO. You have to take responsibility for your life.
Your husband is a cup holder. Which man thinks it’s cute when he’s best friend betrays him? It’s one thing to fall in love the other thing is to admit it. That’s betrayal of the friendship. And your hubby is a moron.
Thread lightly
What was your gut feel about his confession? What did you tell this friend? How did he take it?
Good for you, telling your husband everything is the first step. Now don’t start indulging the best friend keep him at arms length; also he was probably never really your friend more like a guy waiting for hus chance
You can’t help the way you feel about someone, but you can control how you handle it. He never should have told you that; it was a betrayal to his best friend.
That being said, if you and your husband are okay with remaining friends with him you need to establish some very clear boundaries with him. The first one being that you and him should never be alone together.
I told him. I see him as a brother more than anything. My husband doesn’t see him as a threat. He knows I wouldn’t leave him. I know I wouldn’t leave him for my husband. My husband knows everything what he is saying. I can’t keep a secret from him. Is this wrong?
Guy flips out he’s insecure, guy is secure in his relationship and theres something wrong with him lol. No wonder girls are single
Your husband’s gay and wants to do things with his best friend. You are the beard. The end.
My bfs friends would occasionally admit to having a crush on me. It happens. It shouldn’t be verbalized. Saying he is in love with you was wrong if he hasn’t called to apologize or doesn’t apologize when he sees you – the guy is so off base. You are his friend’s spouse. Your husband’s reaction is highly suspicious. Something is odd about this situation.
Hell. A real friend would make sure to distance himself from the couple. Go get a rebound girl or something. I can understand he feels a certain way. The breaker, is he waited for your husband to be away when he shot his shot. Not an open discussion at the kitchen table where all three of you could discuss his exit or time out from the friend group. He has to go.
So yeah, I’d be having a serious talk with this dude.
do you have a sister? could be an easy solution
Weird situation. I am assuming that your husband’s friend is socially awkward and never talks to any women. That would explain him “falling in love” with you. You may be the only woman he speaks to in real life. That’s probably why your husband isn’t that worried.
With that said…I would have a talk with the friend and your husband separately to establish boundaries.
You need some distance…..for his sake. Your husband needs to speak with him. To tell you that was extremely disrespectful to someone that is supposed to be his friend. Keeping him around and HIS NOT KNOWING THAT YOUR HUSBAND KNOWS will make him think there’s hope.
Well, you and your husband need to sit down with him for a chat. Make it clear that you are of one mind in this, and he should assume that anything he says to one of you will be heard by both of you.
You owe your friend an honest answer that you love your husband
You owe your husband a big kick in his rear for thinking that you hooking up with someone else is cute and not a betrayal of your commitments and your personal honor.
I can appreciate your husband being secure and you loving your husband and acknowledging you have no feelings toward him. Definitely good things!! I would still be cautious and keep my distance and not forget what the friend said to you!
It doesn’t seem like anyone is doing anything wrong here. Not sure what the problem is..?
Do be aware that the best friend is probably in some pain from the feeling of unrequited love. Be gentle with him and make sure your husband still treats him as a friend.
The his sounds like a beautiful opportunity .
Enjoy the love and trust of your husband and …. Know husband and best friend probably talk about you all the time . He has probably known a long time
Well if the friend is not flirting or trying to to bed you as the husband it would not bother me. Once he tries(if he tries. ) me and him will have some words
I have cut friends completely out for the same thing and there is definitely something wrong with your husband if he thinks it is cute I would question how much he actually cares about you
The guy needs to go. How can your husband be so cavalier? Do they want a threesome w you? Odd.
What friendship? Either you love the attention or want more of what this friend is offering. If not there’s no point in talking to him. The more you talk the more he’ll think you are interested.
Do you have a Cuckold husband and weren’t aware of it? Tell your husband if he still loves you because it wouldn’t seem like it from his attitude, do you know how many kicks in the ass I would have given to the supposed friend if I had been your husband as well as eliminating him from your life? You on the other hand are a nice, serious, loyal, faithful person, always be like this because you are a winner 👍
If I was your husband this so called friend would no longer be a friend of mine