When young boys get taken advantage by “attractive” women, there’s this overall theme of “lucky kid” in the comments. Women will point out how awful it is but men are like why would he tell anyone?? It’s disgusting cause if the roles were reversed, they’ll threaten people with 💀. They don’t understand the effects on the mind of a boy when they are taken advantage of like that.
I take this personally because I’m a victim of this growing up. It messed up my preference with women, hooking up and sex drive. Some days I feel used and never felt good enough in relationships. Emotionally I’m trying to fix this. I just know men who go through that probably never get help or even look within themselves to accept what happened.
It bothers me a lot to see this fetishization. If you say it’s disgusting when a girl is a victim, then you should say the same to a boy. Context and your preference be damned.
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It’s sad as fuck and something I’m a victim of personally, there’s chick’s that’ll literally go “they got hard that means they like it” arousal isn’t always you approving what’s going on, it’s a natural bodily function to what’s happening, and then they will argue “it happens to women more” completely casting the fucked up shit aside and even siding woth the chick, it’s the same with dv, “youre a man you can take it.” Smh.
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My fiance was a victim. And I have always, even before knowing him, thought men had it rough in this instance. I don’t get how and why people thinks it’s okay when young men/boys get taken advantage of. It’s disgusting, regardless of the person’s gender. And very little angers me more than the idiots who think men can’t be victims.
Yep. This is a very real thing and it’s the number one thing I think about when people say patriarchy hurts men too.
Any victim deserves sympathy and care and kindness from people regardless of their gender. Some people are just too stupid and you can’t always fix stupid
Completely agree. Trying to explain this to guys usually flies over their head. It’s really sad and disgusting. Where I’m from (I don’t know how it is with the youngsters now) growing up, lots of the guys my age, if not most, had their V card taken by older women as young/mid teens. Absolutely disgusting and I also despise women who take advantage of these young boys, just because they know the boys will be praised by others and she won’t face any consequences.
Yes all victims should be treated equally if they see themselves as victims. It is illegal regardless of gender. However, when I was 14 I had an encounter with an attractive older woman and I was happy about it and do not consider myself a victim at all. I recognize that not every fella is like me. I had friends at the time my same age and they probably would not have done well with it but I did. I would never mock a male who saw themselves as a victim. Also if I was any younger it probably would have messed me up but by age 14 I was girl crazy, obsessed with boobs and couldn’t stop staring at women.
So the guys who don’t understand might just be guys like me who would be no worse for wear. I certainly can’t speak to the female experience but some guys come out of these scenarios ok. It is still a crime and wrong and I recognize now that the lady I was with had some screws loose but she didn’t get pregnant or give me any STDs, I didn’t fall in love and get my heart broken and I was into it so no harm no foul.