Me (F17) and my boyfriend (M17) have been together since December. At first, things were amazing—he was sweet, affectionate, constantly texting me, saying how much he loved me.
Lately though, I feel like we’re drifting apart. We haven’t had sex yet—partly due to lack of opportunity, but also because I don’t feel ready physically or mentally. He says he really wants to, and while I don’t mind the idea, it’s just not a priority for me right now.
He’s more experienced than me (I’ve only had short, bad relationships before), and lately, when we hang out, things tend to get physical. He’s been focusing a lot on my body, constantly complimenting it. I don’t know if that’s normal or if it should bother me. I used to feel really loved, but now the attention feels more sexual than emotional. I’m scared to set boundaries because I don’t want him to lose interest.
I overthink everything. I care about him so much, and I’m scared of losing him. I don’t know if I’m being irrational, or if he’s slowly losing interest in everything but sex. He still does cute things sometimes, but even our texts lately tend to revolve around sex.
Am I the problem here? How do I handle this? And honestly… do you think he’s only with me for the sex?
TL;DR: I feel like my boyfriend is only waiting for sex in our relationship and doesn’t really enjoy quality time with me. How should I handle it?