I (18F) just got sent home after staying with my boyfriend (we’re long-distance), and now I have literally one full month before school starts again.
And I have no idea what to do.
I don’t really have any close friends right now, and I’ve been stuck at home — not by choice. My parents wanted me to “take it easy,” but honestly, it’s just made me feel worse. I’ve spent the last two days mostly sleeping because I’m so bored and unmotivated. I really don’t want the rest of the summer to feel like this.
So I’m reaching out:
Do you have any ideas for how to survive — or even enjoy — a month like this? Something that could make me feel a little alive again?
Like:
• Should I try reaching out to old friends, even if it feels awkward?
• Are there any fun online games or communities I can get into?
• What’s something crazy, fun, or creative I could commit to for a month that might actually be memorable?
• Any routines or projects that helped you when you were stuck and bored?
Literally anything helps.
Even dumb or silly ideas. I just don’t want to spend this time feeling miserable and trapped.
Thanks in advance <3
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I think it’s a good idea to reach out to old friends. You can also try some new activities. I guess there are some possibilities in the area where you live
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Have you considered getting a cat?
Volunteer somewhere
1,000 crunches a day.
Make a secret todo list and seriously try getting stuff on it done.
Then leave it on some park bench under a rock to confuse the curious.
Do this enough times and you might get copy cats.
– Meet up with old friends
– Take a walk each morning
– Take a blanket to the park and read a book
– Join a gym for the month
– Do some budget traveling (bus or rail)
If you are sick or something, I’d understand sleeping all day, but if not, why not get out and enjoy the summer weather and the fresh air?
I know you’re only 18 but none of us are guaranteed tomorrow. It’s a miracle that we exist as it is – spending your life in a darkened room sleeping all day seems sad, unless you have a condition or illness.
And perhaps there is a language barrier, but what do you mean you were “sent home after staying with [your] boyfriend?”
Are you going through separation anxiety / depression from being away from him? I’d think at 18, or for any age for that matter, one should not let another person have such a high degree of control over your happiness or unhappiness. I understand the infatuation of young love, but I’d hope despite a month’s absence, considering you can talk / text / facetime / email whenever you wanted, being physically separated from your BF for a month wouldn’t cause crippling depression – if that’s what you are experiencing with sleeping your days away and trying to “survive” for a month.
Good luck.
You need the gym
Read real books.
You’re young, you have to learn to be happy on your own and not to be dependent on someone else.
Find a hobby, a sport, a club of something you like
Gym membership, volunteer at local animal shelter, get into creative things like art or music. (Can learn drawing etc. on YouTube videos) Lots of online classes, yoga at home or at a yoga center (great place to make friends too) watch “how to” YouTube videos,
Get online and research meetup.com groups on your area. Study something you have interest in. Make your home immaculate. Learn Jewelry making. Join a beginner bowling league. So much to do! I hope this helps.
You need to leave the house. Get up, make your bed, shower and get presentable. Go to a shop or restaurant you’ve never been to, go thrifting, just go to a park — get out of the house.
Laying on the floor in silence is not going to make you feel good. You just gotta get showered and get out of the house! Doing something different is going to rewire your neural pathways.
Remember, there’s a reason your bf likes you. Do you and get out there and treat yourself like your best friend. Be the girl he met and fell in love with
Only boring people get bored.
Volunteer
Go to the gym
Take hikes/walks
Clean your room
Organize your closet
Call old friends
Call new friends
Get a seasonal job
Take some classes
Go to a museum
Learn to cook/bake
gaming is always a good option maybe join a discord or too if your into movies you could do a list of top movies you haven’t seen get out and walk you will be surprised what you will discover
Here’s a crazy idea…get a job.
Gym, gym gym gym
If someone else is your foundation for happiness / self contentness you are in for a long ride. Others are supposed to benefit your experience, not be the experience. Someone else as your foundation means that at any moment (as you are currently experiencing) it can be taken away.
-Volunteer
-Play video games
-Start taking college classes online
-Get a job
-Watch movies
-Get some plants
-Go get CPR certified
-Go to the gym
-Go shopping
-Take a cooking class
-Plan your next trip
Get a job
You need to get out of the house and do something. You are feeling a little depressed from being rejected maybe? Others have made plenty of suggestions. Maybe you need to tell the cat all your troubles.