We’ve been together for a month and it was really fun at first like I really liked him and we had a lot of fun texting and hanging out. It’s my first relationship so he was my first kiss. I never really liked anyone or felt that way before. So he would ask sometimes when we could do stuff because we’re a couple and we’re supposed to do that stuff but I felt really nervous about it and I wasn’t sure yet. Since I never kissed anyone before so I wanted to just take things slow and wait til I felt very ready and he always said he understands and it was fine but he would ask sometimes but I’d remind him that I need some more time and he said it was okay.
And then recently he said his parents weren’t home and I can come over and we can watch all the Twilight movies together and he’ll get pizza and snacks and stuff like a date movie marathon. I was excited and normally I have a curfew but my mom said I can stay late because it’s a lot of movies. So I went and it was fine and we were having fun and then like during the first movie, he wanted to kiss and it was fun. He started to get touchy and it was good but it got too much and I asked him to relax and he stopped but he started again a few minutes after. The whole time he kept trying to do stuff. To be honest it got weird because he wouldn’t stop. I tried moving over on the couch and he followed me and then I tried sitting on a different couch and the floor and he kept coming next to me. And the whole time he was touching me and I could see his d. Even when I got up to the kitchen to get water he followed me and kept saying I look so pretty and started like touching himself through his pants. It was really weird I just pretended I didn’t see it. The whole night he was doing stuff. He would say he understands but he kept doing it again and he was getting more weird so I just let him do it because I got tired of trying to say no. It was going on for hours and I thought he’d leave me alone.
I felt so gross after and I didn’t tell my mom what happened. I just feel nasty. I wish I didn’t go. I keep thinking about it and I feel like it was not consensual and I don’t know how I feel about him anymore.
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He sounds like a sex pest. I don’t think it is likely he would be convicted of rape by a jury, based on the post you have made, but it does seem like he is someone to avoid.
He did not respect your wishes and I suspect that the movie marathon was just a set up to get you alone.
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I am so sorry that happened to you. Please talk to people you can trust about your experience. If that is your mom great or if it’s a friend doesn’t matter. None of it is your fault, just because you said yes after hours of pressuring doesn’t mean it was consensual.
I really hope you break up with him immediately. Do it over text, explicitly mention his actions and take screenshots of everything.
Stay strong!
I’m so sorry OP! You need to talk to a trusted adult about what happened, even if you finally said yes I’m sure you were still uncomfortable the entire time, and I’m so sorry. You need to break up with him immediately, as this probably won’t be the only time this happens