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We all met in highschool and became friend really quick, and I ended dating my gf after a few month of friendship (it’s been 3 years now). But a few month ago, i’ve begin to think that she might be in love with her best friend. Here are my reasons to think that:
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She only talks about her, every thing we laugh
about or watch on tv she’s like “oh she would love that” or “oh I should send this to her”. -
She writes stories and songs in which they’re
dating and having sex. -
She’s really touchy with her, but not like touching her arm, she fully touches her butt and boobs.
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She plauyfully say that she want to fuck her and kiss her etc, but more than a few times it seems like she wasn’t kidding.
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She invites her at my house without asking me (I still live with my parents (which cause me to get in trouble with my parents)) when we’re hanging out.
It might not sound this serious when I write it like that, but l assure you in real life it’s more concerning
What can I do about that ? Thank you
Tldr: I think my gf is in love with her best friend for multiple reasons
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This actually sounds very, very serious. Why would you be with someone like that?
>She plauyfully say that she want to fuck her and kiss her etc, but more than a few times it seems like she wasn’t kidding.
Sounds quite serious to me and way over the line.
Doesn’t sound like something you should be sitting around for waiting to see what happens.
Should break up with her, she doesn’t respect your relationship in the slightest. Not trust worthy.
I really get how messed up this feels, and it’s really not okay for her to be acting like that, it’s important you think about what kind of future you actually want, because if she can’t commit to you without constantly fantasizing about someone else, maybe it’s time to walk away before things get worse. But here’s something people don’t usually mention: sometimes the real issue isn’t just her behavior, but whether you’re both even on the same page about what a relationship should look like… and that might be harder to figure out than you think.
Yeah that relationship is over but dw you’re young. I’m sure you can find some better.
Dude, bail.