I’m 18M and in a relationship with my girlfriend (21F). She honestly feels like the best thing that’s ever happened to me. She lights up my life, she’s so loving, understanding, and just an amazing person all around.
But I can’t help feeling like an absolute mess compared to her. We’re long-distance, and because of my strict parents I don’t have access to my phone most of the day or night. I usually have to sneak around just to call or text her. She always reassures me that it’s okay, but I know she would love more time together, and truthfully, so would I.
She’s also so much further along in life than I am. She’s studying and working, while I just finished school and am still figuring things out. I’m scared she’ll eventually stop loving me, because I’m not good enough for her and I feel like an absolute burden, whenever I complain about my parents.
I don’t know what to do and how to help myself, does anyone know how I can be less insecure?
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My Brother in Christ, you are a whole ass adult. Wtf is going through your parents’ heads? How are you supposed to find a job if the boss can’t call you for an interview?
But also, three years means a lot at this age. Many haven’t even finisbed school by 18, you are doing fine, and it’s not a race anyway.
You are just 18 , study some more or apply for some jobs it takes time . Your insecurity will lead to the downfall of your relationship because you might sabotage it . Don’t compare yourself to her to put yourself down. She’s doing well in life that’s a good thing , find good things in yourself too . She chose to date you she made a choice irrespective of how good enough you might not feel . She felt you are way more than good enough which is why you’ll are dating or else you’ll would’ve just been friends.