This is my first relationship ever, so im very inexperienced and dont really ever know what to do, just trying to go with the flow i guess.
Shes been in a few relationships before me, but she has said they were all toxic and only lasted a couple months.
I dont even know if shes had her first kiss yet either. I do know shes saving herself for marriage so I dont know if that includes kissing or not
We’ve been dating for 3 months now but i just cant work up the courage ask her anything relating to kissing.
We are both very comfortable with each other, as I see her just about everyday, and we text everyday, all day.
When we see eachother we always cuddle and hold eachother, but i just cant ask her anything, i guess out of fear of a bad response.
Its not that i think she’ll have a bad reaction either, shes very open about her feelings, as long as i ask
Ive passed by all the chances in the world. I can see in those moments that its a good time, but i just cant ask.
I just want to take the next step but cant figure out how
What should I do?
TLDR:
I cant work up the courage to ask to kiss her
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Honestly ik ur scared to ask her bout it but ur gonna have to find the courage to bring it up and see what she says, she could just be waiting on u to make a move but it might be better to ask than just going for it
The tough part of the situation you’re in is that you’re really hung up on talking to her about it and that’s the single, most critical and important thing you have to do in a relationship.
You have to do it everyday, all the time, about everything major and minor. This isn’t going to be easy but you simply have to start talking about it. What I find helps me is to have an idea of all the things I want to say – don’t try to plan the conversation because you’ll never be able to account for what she says and then you’ll just sound like a robot reciting lines or get hung up on something you didn’t plan on – but try to think of all things that are important for you to say, and then just start yapping. Once you start, you’ll find it along the way because the barrier has been broken, the wall has come down and the words can flow out and the awkwardness will be in the background of the moment.
Maybe start by talking about yourself? Something like “so I was wondering – I’ve never actually had my first kiss yet and honestly I’m pretty inexperienced. Have you had your first kiss yet?” And then let the convo happen.
You say you’re very comfortably with each other and talk about the time – let this be another thing you talk about. Kissing is just the first step of many, many things you’ll need to talk about down the road, so get used to talking and getting over this little hurdle now. Train yourself on it while it’s small potatoes like this so that when the big stuff comes later, you’ll have already built up a lot of practice and experience and it will be easy to say something about sex or whatever comes next.