first of all, i dont use reddit a lot (dont even know if this is the right sub) and english is not my first language, so im sorry for the mistakes and etc.
so, a little backstory: since i was 10, my parents ask me if every girl i bring home was my girlfriend, wich is a bummer bc i always had more girl friends than boy friends, but with this girl (wich ill call Amy) in special, they’ve been REALLY annoying about. Amy and i are friends since, like, 5 years old, so we’re VERY VERY close, and i think it was logical for we to end up dating at some point. Amy has an older brother (James) and, unlike the brothers of my other friends, he was kind to us, sometimes would be the dragon when we were playing castle and things like that. When we got older (me and Amy 14 and he 16) James started to work out and wearing more dark clothes and i think was then that i started to look at him more, but not too much bc it was a little weird. Ok now to actually story.
in the middle of 2023 Amy and I kissed for the first time. it was in her birthday party, i was her prince (15th party in my country is a bit like the 16th for you, i guess) and after her last dance, i took her to a quiet place to give my present to her. we were both a little drunk and, when she was hugging me for thanks me, we stared for a little long and kissed, it was weird and i dont felt the “fireworks” that some people talk about, but was good. we talk about it after and decided to be just friends. later in that year i think i had my first (maybe) “gay panic”, i was in their house, in Amy’s room, then i decided to go to the kitchen, when i was going back to the room, James showed up from the corner with just a tight workout shorts, he was sweaty and had his hair was tied up. i think i never get so blushed so fast, i froze completely, he just said “hi” and passed by me a little fast, i took a moment to get myself together and get back to the room, never told Amy that. So, in August of 2024 me and Amy started dating after we make out a couple times. Our relationship as friends never changed, we still loved each other really much, but evolved into this. It’s been amazing, but, the more I spend time with her family the more I realize that i might have a crush on James. The sentiment its really different, obviously, but every time he’s around i get blushy, when he talk with me i felt the “butterflys”, sometimes I get myself thinking about him, and how I would felt with his strong hands around my waist, but I always tried to brush it off. So, what do i do? Do I tell her? Do I tell HIM? I need someones who has more experience give me some advice. I still love Amy so much I could die or kill for her, she’s the most special person in my life and I don’t wanna hurt her. I’ve never realized this crush before, if i had, I would never get into this relationship.
TLDR: i maybe have a crush on my girlfriend’s brother but still love her and don’t want to broke her heart
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Do you feel that way about Amy at all? If you don’t then it could be that the love you have for her is more a friend love or a family love and not a romantic one. The feelings you describe about her brother are the feelings you’d have for a romantic partner early on, usually.
sounds like you’re feeling hella unappreciated. I get it, I’ve been there. But look, maybe your pops just isn’t a ‘watch guy’, ya know?