I (19 f) feel like I am unable to break up with my boyfriend (19 m)

Me and my boyfriend met in highschool, and to be honest, we’ve had a lot of problems. At the same time, I always felt like we were great for each other and the goodtimes always out weighed the bad. Our relationship started out very sweet but over time it has definitely become toxic. We have been dating for a bit over 2 years, but for the past half a year or so we have been living together. He has a rough relationship with some of his family, and wasn’t able to live at home anymore, so he had to move in with one of his parents (they are separated.) Because of this we were long distance for a few months and to be honest, it really sucked. He wasn’t communicating with me well at all and I felt completely uncared for, I got close to wanting to break up, but when I visited him of course I second guessed everything. I convinced myself that the disrespect was due to his crappy circumstances and the distance. So we kept making it work and I was really hoping he could move in with me. My family actually offered for him to move in a few months later, which I was very excited about. He agreed to move in and things were awesome at first, but now I regret it. I kind of have the basement to myself so there’s enough room for the two of us, but it is still “my room.” My problems with our relationship at the moment are that I don’t feel he helps out equally, his only chore is to do dishes because sometimes we leave them downstairs when we are done eating or something, not all the time. But he hardly ever does them, and if he does he leaves it for so long. I usually just end up doing it anyways which isn’t really a big deal but it is a bit annoying, I do all of the other cleaning tasks and laundry for us both and to be fair, I’m not the best at keeping things clean either but it’s definitely a lot harder when he just leaves things around and makes me feel like he doesn’t care at all. It’s way harder to clean up after both of us than just myself. Most importantly though, since moving together and me maturing with age and everything, I’ve realized how bad this relationship is for me, he disrespects me a lot, and emotionally abuses me when he’s angry (gaslighting, silent treatment, yelling, swearing) and I am not okay with this anymore. I still love him a lot and we are happy together a lot of the time, but even though we are usually happy, I don’t want to keep feeling like if I do one thing wrong then suddenly we will have a horrific argument. Just the other day I literally looked in his direction and for some reason he got mad because he said I was glaring at him or something, then when I criticized the ridiculousness of that he literally threw something at me. That is an extreme example since he’s never done that before, but that situation is what is making me write this post. He never apologized and then just stayed in my bed ignoring me for a few hours until he eventually started talking to me like nothing was wrong. We have more incompatabilities and stuff but obviously you’ve heard enough. My problem is that I can’t just break up with him now, I’d have to kick him out of his house too, which is so scary and horrible. We’ve had a really amazing relationship at times and he has been there to support me through a lot of horrible shit believe it or not, I know we have to break up but I hoped we could have been friends or atleast respect eachother afterwards but I feel like I am going to blow up both of our lives and he will despise me for it. I’m so scared of that. Also, when he came here, my family told us that we need to be saving money, moving forward in life, and also paying rent. We haven’t really been able to uphold that though because it took him a while to find a job (well actually I found it for him, I was the one applying 🤦‍♀️) and then after a month of working he quit. So he will literally be back to exactly where he was at before this if I kick him out, which I know isn’t my fault, but I just feel horrible about it. I really believed that given the opportunity, he would get his act together and be able to get on his feet, yk, save up money and get a place here. Or at least a car, which is something he really wants, but now we are setback to the beginning. I was honestly holding out until he could get a car or a place and then maybe we could break up but I just can’t do this anymore. I’m only 19 and I’m wasting my resources and emotional energy on someone who clearly doesn’t respect me. Also, I need my own space! I never would have thought that he would leave my room a mess and just sit here all day doing nothing. Its especially infuritating when hes mad at me, because ill be feeling horrible and want to cry in my bed but I cant because when he’s stone walling me he just sleeps in my bed. Like if you hate me so much for just existing at least get out of my room!! I feel like such an idiot for not realizing this all sooner and getting myself trapped like this. I really don’t know what to do. Thank you if you read this all, I know it’s a lot, I am asking for advice but It may have come off as a bit of a vent. Also please be nice, I know I’m stupid for getting myself into this mess, It’s hard to see red flags with rose tinted glasses. Also I know that reading this sounds bad, but he has done a lot of very nice things for me, we have so many great memories and we have months where we don’t argue at all so it’s easy for me to forgive and hope things will get better. Anyway, I hope someone has some good advice.

TLDR: my boyfriend has moved in with my and my family and it has gotten to be very toxic, I don’t feel respected and I don’t trust him anymore. I know the relationship has to end but I feel stuck now because he is dependent on me, he has no savings and did not achieve any of the goals we set when moving in. If I kick him out he will be set back by nearly half a year. I know he will hate me for it and I’m so scared, I was hoping we could be friends if something ever went wrong but clearly that won’t happen. I need advice please.