For context I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now, and we’ve been living together for almost a year.
There have been several incidents in our relationship where he has lied to my face about things, the most recent being last week, and I don’t feel like I can trust him.
He also has some anger problems where the slightest inconvenience will make him in a mad mood for the whole day and he’ll treat me poorly because of it.
I’m not sure if I believe in soulmates, but I just don’t feel like he is my person, and when I try to explain this to him he cries and I just give up because I still love him I just don’t think I can give him what he wants.
I just feel like we have so many differences, like he wants kids, and I don’t is a big one.
There’s also our sex life. We were both each other’s firsts, but I feel like when we have sex he’s the only one being pleased. I’ve never had an orgasm or anything, and hes usually finished in less than five minutes and just goes about his day. Usually there isn’t any foreplay either.
Any advice anyone has would be helpful. I wanted this guy to be my person so badly but I just don’t see myself being happy with him in the long term.
Should I leave him or try to stick it out and see if things change?
TL:DR I think I should leave my boyfriend due to current issues in our relationship.
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Leave him. You are still young
Absolutely break up with him. Doing sex you said that you dont get an orgasm or anything, that could be your body telling you that he isnt the right one. And also the thing with kids really doenst sit right with me, imagine a furture where youre together with him with kids? would you want that?
So my opinion is for sure to end things, the dynamic doesnt sound right
OP, um… genuine question, why are you with him? you listed lying, anger issues, zero effort in the bedroom, and completely different life goals. you didn’t mention a single positive about him. if you can’t think of what you actually like about your partner then don’t settle for misery.
relationships aren’t supposed to be perfect but if you come here to ask for help and can’t think of a single reason you even like being with them… that’s kinda just done tbh. when the bad outweighs the good this much you’re not holding onto a relationship, you’re holding onto the idea of him or just bc you don’t wanna be alone.
and like the way you talk about trying to fix stuff? he cries, you give up, nothing changes. that’s not fixing anything, that’s him guilt tripping you. plus you want different futures (kids vs no kids) which is literally a top tier dealbreaker.
so why are you still in it tho? from the outside it doesn’t sound like “doubting,” it sounds like you already checked out and just want permission to say it. you don’t need permission. you’re young, you learned, move on.