Guilt about being clingy.
My boyfriend (19m) and I (19f) have been together for a year and a half now. We get along amazingly despite our differences and we love and support each other yada yada.
I have always dealt with severe anxiety and depression and my boyfriend has been my biggest supporter and rock even before we started dating. He is reassuring and always careful to communicate well with me. Due to his support, I have kinda become obsessed? I am younger than everyone else at my university and struggled to form close friendships. He is my best friend and I spend all of my free time with him. I have hobbies and a personality of course, but I genuinely enjoy talking about our days or just sitting in silence together. We’ve lived together for about a year and I fear I am have found myself overly dependent on him.
He has friends and goes out more than I do, but his favorite part of the day is coming home to sleep in bed next to me. According to his “testimony” and my observations, I know the feeling is mutual and he has told me many times he doesn’t think I’m too clingy.
I am writing now because he just left for a cruise with his family for a week with no service. I’m laying down to sleep without him right now and I feel so awful and anxious I’m on the verge of tears. I completely trust him but I just miss being together already.
Please give me advice on how to survive the week as a clingy person
Tldr: he doesn’t mind me being clingy but I do
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Sounds like you have an anxious attachment style. Do some reading about it, especially the book Attached by Amir Levine.
I’ll copy paste the writing from some internet picture that helped me years ago.
when you feel abandonment anxiety coming and the self sabotage arising say this: