I left my boyfriend who was buried in debt (he was trying to make me pay for it).
My boyfriend (24M) got into really bad debt. He said he wanted to improve his credit score, so he ended up taking out loans from banks and buying gadgets on installment, thinking it would help his credit score.
His monthly salary: 27,000
His monthly debt payments: 22,000
He would joke around, saying I should help him pay it off. I told him, “Why, are you my husband for me to do that?” (I felt he got offended and asked me, “Why, isn’t that where we’re headed anyway?”)
As months passed, I started to feel the burden from his loan problem, and he always expected me to pay for our dates, gas, toll fees, and he would ask me to buy him expensive gifts.
Eventually, I woke up to the situation, especially when he started treating me badly. He was always irritable and yelling at me, as if he was mad at himself but took it out on me. I left because I couldn’t take it anymore I just let him deal with his debt. I finally got this off my chest, but it still haunts me sometimes.
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24 with the emotional maturity of a 12 year old.
You had yourself a real winner there 💀
That is either the most severe case of financial illiteracy I’ve heard of since years or a shopping addiction. Both cases are a GTFO situation. So, right call.
As a poor millennial this has to be ragebait. If I made that much money a month my problems would not exist.
That is an ENORMOUS monthly salary. The fuck was he even buying to accrue that kind of debt? Did he have a three a day Faberge egg habit or what?
That monthly salary makes no sense…
Maybe they mean 2,700 a month.
No one who is that financially illiterate is making that kind of dough unless it’s his allowance from his trust fund or he’s a professional athlete
I assume you mean 2700 monthly salary. I would think that unless he was literally lighting money on fire, that he could pay off 22K in debt with a 27K a month salary.