I have been together with someone twice, each time it has been broken of because of poor communication. Now, after 3 years I have gotten into contact with her again (18F). I’m not sure if I still have any real feelings for her, or if I just miss the time where someone loved me. She probably has already someone else, so I wouldn’t try it either way, especially after she is living now a long distance away. She also gave me a lot of mental problems, because she has been the first person whom I trusted wholeheartedly, since about 10 years. After it has been over 2 times, I was pretty fucked up, and wanted to concentrate on “growing up” and “gaining more experience in life”.
I also met someone who has been in love with me for me for like 2,5 years, I also have been somewhat together with her, but the circumstances didn’t allow anything deeper. I have begun to like her more and more, but I’m really not sure if I want to spend my whole life with her, and I also don’t want to hurt her (19F). She has gone through many many traumatic things. One of the things she likes about me is that I never judged her, but I never judge anyone is the thing. She also experienced a lot of extremely traumatic events in her life, even more than the stuff I experienced, and that’s also putting the bar up high.
And now I’ve met someone (20F) who appears a lot easier from all the stuff that happened to her, way less drama/trauma that I have to deal with second hand. But she maybe just likes me as a person, but maybe a bit more, hard to decipher that as of right now.
I’m not really sure what to do…
With whom should I try to be together, how can I reduce future pain?
What is even the partner I like?
I like many many people, but I also never want to two time someone, so I’d rather not get into any relationship, because it scares me a bit based on past relationships.
I would like some advice based on your experience with life and relationships, because I’m pretty new to this. I hope I don’t break any rules in this sub lol.
I always find so many awesome people whom I would like to be in a relationship, but I csn only be with one. If you have any similar situations in your life I also would like to hear something from you. Any input would be greatly appreciated, because I have no real clue anymore. I don’t need moral advice, I just want to hear if you experienced something similar, because I feel like if I got with someone together, I can’t get togetger with the other people because it’s too late when I break uo with someone I chose. (I ofc don’t want that, but that possibility is always there)
Tldr:
I have many people with whom I could get together, but I don’t know who I really like/love, and who woukd hurt me or not.