I (19m) met woman (34f) online, we met up and had a one night stand. I want to keep seeing her but I don’t know how to go about it without looking desperate?

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I met this woman online and when we first met, she made it clear she wanted sex only and not s relationship. We started texting and sending each other nudes and we both liked each other enough ti meet up. At first she told me I was too young for her and that she felt bad for talking to a young guy like me.

After we exchanged pics she changed her mind and she just told me to bring my ID when we metup. She got a room for us and we met up. I was nervous and all, but after we started making out I kind of relaxed myself a bit and I let her guide me and teach me.

We stayed together all night and in the morning she was in a rush and just gave me a good kiss and left quickly. She said she had fun and would be down to meetup again, but said she was just busy. I texted her the next day and she didn’t answer for a couple days and she didn’t want to give me her phone number and told me to just keep texting her through X how we were.

I feel like I fell in love with her already? Like I don’t know if it’s just because she was super good at sex that now I feel addicted to her and I just want ti keep meeting up with her but I want this often.How often can I text her or how soon can I ask her to meet up again for sex?

Tldr: I had a one time hookup with an older friend I met online. I want to keep doing this because it was extremely good, but I don’t want to look desperate.

Comments

  1. MLeek Avatar

    With love kiddo, if you “feel like you fell in love with her already” then you should NOT continue to see her casually.

    You need to learn to be able to contextualize this as a fun thing you choose to do once, but not a thing that has a future.

    Really, really recommend you step away and take this as a lesson in how to manage the irrational feelings that come from hooking up.

  2. crocs_r_valid_shoes Avatar

    She doesn’t want a relationship and she made that clear. Second of all, your 19 and she’s 34? Imagine if the gender roles were reversed, yikes.

  3. lrjones89 Avatar

    Sorry dude, she doesn’t see you as anything more than a good time. She does not want to date you. You need to distance yourself from her since you’ve caught feelings and she’ll never give you what you want. 

  4. usrdef Avatar

    It’s not love.

    You enjoyed the experience, and probably from lack of experience.

    If I had a damn dime every time I felt like I was in love in my teens, I could probably buy a quality steak dinner.

    I would take a step back and seriously analyze the situation. I’m not going to get on you about the age. You’re both adults. You can do whatever as long as it’s consensual, I’m just talking about from an emotional aspect.

    You probably don’t have a lot of experrience (as admitted in your post), so your emotions are going to be all over the place when you experience something new, or something you enjoyed.