me and my girlfriend (19f) of four months have been having a few issues lately and have some weird tension. we went to a party together and i met someone who i’ll call kris. me and kris got along great and since then, i haven’t been able to stop thinking about them. i love my girlfriend so much and id never want to hurt her and i do NOT condone cheating. (if i wanted to pursue something with kris, i would break up with my gf) that being said i literally cannot get kris off my mind. they were extremely attractive and i feel like im crawling out of my skin with guilt. i dont know if im self sabotaging an otherwise great relationship or this is like the universe telling me something. like at the party, i found kris laying on the patio outside so i went and laid next to them. as soon and i did, we both saw a bright shooting star (which is weird because my town has tons of light pollution). anyways i feel like im going insane and i need help
tl;dr im attracted to someone else while im in a relationship and im very very confused and need help
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It’s okay to feel attraction, it doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong. What matters is what you do with those feelings. Use this as a moment to reflect: are you genuinely happy in your relationship, or are you staying out of guilt and comfort?
Youre young, youre allowed to explore your options and figure out what you do and dont like. That said, its also completely normal to be attracted to people even while in a relationship – what matters is how you handle it. You’re consciously aware of it and can decide for yourself if its something you actually want to pursue or if its just something new and exciting. Having personally been a person historically to chase the new and exciting, its almost never been worth leaving something good and established for that temporary rush. It dies down over time and youll feel that way again the next time someone new comes along. Figure out what youre looking for in a relationship and find someone whos going to build that with you
Your girlfriend deserves better than you being checked out and fantasising about someone else.