Hey guys! I’m looking for some advice, or more so hear your own experiences with this.
My partner and I have been dating for over a year now. I won’t get into the details, however we had an argument where I felt like my trust had been betrayed. He tried to reassure me in the days following, but I can’t help but feel a whole lot of resentment towards him.
I’ve been very open with him with how I’ve felt throughout the past few days, and it’s clear that he really wants to help me move past this. It’s been very rocky. We’ve gotten into arguments in the past, but nothing this big.
We’ve been amazing throughout our time together, and I have no intentions of breaking up with him. I’ve been in abusive relationships in the past, whether physical or emotional. This relationship has been amazing for me. He’s boosted my self esteem, supported my hobbies, is just the most caring person in the world.
I just would like to know how you guys have dealt with betrayal of trust, and feelings of resentment after?
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You gotta tell us about this argument. What he betrayed. And what he’s doing to fix it in order for me to answer his at all. I understand you don’t want to get into the details but please reconsider. If it’s totally off the table please draw out the situation using similar but different options.
Definitely make sure communication is in play, if you are feeling insecure or overwhelmed tell him, his reactions to your communication will tell you everything you need to know. My boyfriend and I went through something very similar and any time I struggle with my inner thoughts he’s always there to reassure me and help me feel better.