I (20F) feel horrible after my boyfriend (21M) dismissed the gifts I planned for him before going long distance

My boyfriend and I are going long distance in a few days, and I had planned a set of gifts for him. Here’s what I prepared:

1. A diary (I filled it with kisses and a few notes)
2. Orchids (his favorite flowers)
3. Matching keychains
4. A nail cutter (he bites his nails a lot, and I thought maybe giving him one would motivate him to grow them out)
5. A T-shirt (i could not think of anything to gift a guy cause I’ve never done that before. since he was gonna shop for himself before his flight, i thought why not contribute something useful)
6. A paper bouquet (made with purple paper cause he loves purple a lot)

7. Letters “A piece of me” (something sentimental and personal)

   The issue is, yesterday I went shopping with one of my guy friends. My boyfriend was aware that I was out with him. In fact it was him who dropped me to the place. I was actually shopping for my boyfriend, but of course I couldn’t tell him that at the time, and my friend also needed to shop for himself.

   In the middle of shopping, my boyfriend called and asked if I wanted to go somewhere with him. I told him I couldn’t, since I needed to stay. I could sense that he felt bad, so I texted him to explain that I was actually out shopping for him. He said he felt “cheated” because of the way i said i needed to be there.

I asked him to come pick me up, and he did. We talked, but I was already feeling guilty until he pulled up a Reddit post and made me read a comment that said something like: “Don’t gift your boyfriend things you like or want him to gift yo- no handwritten notes or anything sentimental.” I didn’t like it at all. I don’t even know what message he was trying to convey, but it hurt deeply.

I’ve already prepared the diary and the bouquet, and now I don’t even feel like giving them to him anymore. I ended up showing him my chats with friends (including the guy I was shopping with) as proof of what I had been planning. I even had to show him the exact list of gifts. After we finished talking about it , he said: “I can’t believe you thought a T-shirt was a good gift.” i don’t know if he said that as a joke or actually meant it.

Now I feel discouraged because I think he’s one of those guys who do not value such efforts. Don’t get me wrong, he loves me. He’s financially well-off and can buy himself anything he wants. That’s part of why I thought meaningful, handmade, and sentimental gifts would matter more. Instead, I just feel horrible.

Later, he told me he doesn’t like surprises and asked why we couldn’t have gone shopping for the gifts together. Long ago, we had a conversation where he said he believes gifts should be something practical and useful, something the receiver wouldn’t normally buy for themselves. I kept that in mind when I planned everything.

Right now, I just feel defeated and even a little bit like I hate myself for trying so hard.

My question is: am I overreacting? Should I still give him the gifts I prepared, or just let it go?

TL;DR: I spent weeks planning thoughtful and sentimental gifts for my boyfriend before we go long distance. He criticized my idea, and now I feel unappreciated and unsure if I should even give them.