I (20m) can’t finish during sex with my gf (20f)

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I (20m)recently started dating a girl I met on hinge around 4/5 months ago we are both 20 years old and things moved super quickly within 3 weeks I had met her family we took sex really slowly and didn’t have pentetration for the first 2 months only done oral sex

She was my first and I was a virgin before I never came during head and struggled to stay hard. I hoped this would change during penetration but hasn’t yet I still have not came and struggle to stay hard

I really like her personality wise my physical attraction to her isn’t there but I love her personality and thought the physical attraction would come later could this be why I’m not finishing and staying hard or is there something else? What should I do?

Tldr I can’t finish during sex not sure if it is because I don’t find her physically attractive or a personal issue like sex isn’t for me or something

Comments

  1. CUDesu Avatar

    You even said you’re not physically attracted to her. Isn’t that the main issue here?

  2. anaesthaesia Avatar

    Could be several things:

    Sex is like any other thing you try for the first time. It can be awkward and takes some time getting used to and feeling fully comfortable in.

    Sex might not be for you, like you said. Some people are asexual. However :

    If you already now know you’re not physically attracted to her, perhaps your subconsciousness knows already knows that not everything is “there”.

  3. ange_0 Avatar

    A few things….

    1.why are you in a relationship with someone your not physically attracted to?

    1. Are you able to stay hard and climax alone?

    2. if you can.. do you have death grip syndrome so unable to when its someone else doing it.

    3. Are you sure your into girls?