Edit- Have the Context that i am gonna be working in corporate as a software developer so having no male interactions just screams out insecure bf alert and it’s practically impossible too.
Me and my boyfriend are dating since January 2025 and it’s almost sept 2025 now. In this span i have had 0 male friends as such. There were few male friends i was connected to 2-3 of them but everything was purely platonic. I never viewed any of them more than just friends. He seemed ok with them. I didnt even hang out with any of them (yea this was the degree of the closeness between me and the male friends) The other day I casually said “you wouldn’t let me have any friends in future life” and bro got so mad that kept saying stuff like “you’d prefer your male friends over me” “god knows what you will do behind my back” “can’t you control yourself from making male friends” “you shouldn’t even think of making male friends” “having male friends is a turn off”
Now I don’t know what’s wrong with him but I dont even HAVE these “male friends” he’s talking about. So there’s no certain individual or their character he is mad about, he just simply doesn’t like the idea of me having any interaction with the opposite gender. And I don’t know about him but I don’t see him having female friendships as a threat. I would love if he would have female friends because I know he will never be attracted to any of them (or atleast i think so now lol). Maybe he is easily attracted to any female he has had any interactions with but that’s not the case for me. I rather get disgusted easily. Now I don’t wanna breakup right away because he is the best man i have got ever, he gets me, he loves me like no one ever did, and he is just perfect (even this jealousy i find cute) but this insecurity, furtheronwards seems a bit concerning.I’m not sure what to do in this relationship anymore… What advice can you share?
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I think you know the answer to this question. If he’s showing this level of controlling behaviour now, it will absolutely escalate the longer you’re with him. There are so many guys out there who are not like this, who will love & trust you. Find one of them cause you deserve so much better than being treated like property.
It’s just, what his preference is.
You might want a guy who makes a certain amount of money, or a certain height, .. he wants a woman who is committed to him and doesn’t put herself in the position where she’s got male “orbiters” around her.
It’s not an unusual request, women do it too, they don’t want their men talking to other women, or having female BFF’s, or talking to their ex-‘s.
This is not unusual behavior.
My advice, do whatever you want, there are tons of guys out there to choose from, but I’d also ask myself, like, why is this an issue ? I mean, if you’re going to get married, let’s say, to this guy, be the mother of his children, etc, .. why do you need these male friends around you ? You have to know that some of them would be up for having sex with you if you gave them the chance. And that’s assuming you haven’t ever dated any of them and had sex with them before now. Your boyfriend isn’t an idiot.
My second piece of advice, you’re REALLY rolling the dice by framing this as an “insecurity” issue. Not only are you trying to deny him the chance to voice an actual concern, you’re disrespecting him by taking aim at his manhood at the same time, .. dangerous combo.