I’ve [21f] been with my bf [21m] for a couple of months now- intimacy is a very important thing for me. Not just sexual but romantic as well. Over the course of our relationship I feel as tho I’m pulling teeth to get anything from him, and I’ve talked to him about this multiple times. It’s always the same thing he’s “new to all of this” and “stressed out” which I completely understand, but it’s like he’s not even trying. He says he things like he’s gonna try but then there’s no willingness to compromise. And usually we have sex most nights but I’m always the one initiating it, and he rarely says anything when we do have sex, he usually just says things like “that feels good-“ and that’s it no moans, no praises.
And so last night I decided to see if he’d be willing to initiate it but like I set it up for him (I.e I got naked in bed) and the thing is he got it up and everything but wouldn’t do anything so I told him that “if he wants it, take it” and he goes “nope” and turned around and went to bed- at this point I think he just enjoys it when I take charge but I can’t help but to feel like I’m putting in all the work- and it makes me feel unwanted/overbearing- I dunno what to do at this point. I’ve tried to talk to him about it multiple times like I said but it’s always the same thing- at this point I feel like I’m too clingy and sexual and it just makes me feel pathetic and desperate. any advice??
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This is your sex life now.
Kid, when you have an obviously glaring and fundamental difference between you and a guy, you acknowledge it and move on. Other humans are available.
When you realise you’re dealing with a screw, you don’t keep hammering, you know?