I was never the type to go through someone’s phone, but recently a gut told me that I should. I went through his screenshots and found a lot of screenshots of girls faces, texts with girls, and even their nudes that he never deleted. The most recent nsfw picture of a girl was when we were already dating a few weeks. I’ve been dating this guy for almost a year. Is this considered cheating? I felt really gross and I still feel sick. And when I told him about it, he didn’t even say sorry and is now just ignoring me.
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Please don’t be like many of us who ignored these types of signs. Save yourself! Someone who truly loves you would not have had these things saved by the 1 year mark. Also, in my experience this could mean he has low self esteem and seeks validation (that is why they treasure those conversations and pics as proof they have been “wanted/desired”). That doesn’t just go away one day and the behavior will continue.
Do YOU consider it cheating? I personally do, I would break up with my boyfriend if he had done/is doing smt like that. You know what you want
I think it’s cheating yes, but he could also be lazy, confront him about it and ask him to delete it. Also, if you already were dating, that’s definitely cheating…
Cheating is defined by you, not everyone else. How do YOU feel about what he’s done?
Cheating is simply ‘breaking the rules’. Everyone relationship has different set of rules, some spoken, some unspoken. So it’s upto you to decide if he broke the rules.
Personally, he ignoring and not even feeling sorry is a red flag, considering the last nsfw photo was from when he was with you.
Sit him down and talk about this maturely. Life’s too short to waste the time on the wrong person.
Not enough information to know. Just ask him. If he denies it then you have to decide if you believe him or not. You already don’t trust him since your gut “told” you to snoop. You probably weren’t wrong to be suspicious, so I think you already know what you need to do